In business sense, for a company to last for a very long time, innovation and marketing will determine the lifetime of the company.
Without innovation and coming up with new products, the consumers will turn to other companies which can offer better products. Without marketing, even if you own the best product in the world, no one will know about it.
How does it got to do with relationships?
Let’s talk about innovation. Strangely, during courtship days, one party will try all means to win the other person’s heart. One is willing to pluck the moon from the sky just to be accepted as a stead. Then after entering into relationship. the effort put in to amuse the other party will lessen. As years pass by, some even feel there is no need to bother about it. Sounds familiar?
Innovation means finding new ways to spend time with your love ones and understanding more of your love ones. Innovation means let’s go for a slow walk by the beach instead of taking the usual walk along shopping lanes. Innovation means cooking a meal instead of eating at the usual restaurant or coffeeshops. Innovation means doing something different from what both of you normally do.
Innovation..what does it mean to you and how would you innovate your relationship with your love ones?
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A bouquet for her
During courtship period, most guys will shower the ladies with gifts. Then, while they are still dating, the flow of gifts is still being sustained, maybe decrease a little bit la. Hmm…then after they get married, there is hardly any more gift..”waste money?”
Many times, this is when trouble comes. The ladies may ask “Why isn’t there any more gift for me? Where is the bouquet of flower he sent me everyday when he is courting me?…” the list goes on.
Guys and ladies alike…many times we are so preoccupied with our work, our career, our climb up the corporate ladder, the endless datelines, the many meetings till don’t know what time…by the time, we have reached home, we are so tired. Some may even have to take care of children and that leaves the couples very little time or no time to spend with each other.
I learnt from a friend (she is already in mid-forties, had a 13-year-old son) that everyday, she and her husband goes for a half-an-hour walk after dinner without fail. Other secondary benefits, also a good time to digest the food. Lower probabily for a tummy to be formed too.
The purpose of going for a slow walk is to update each other of their daily’s happenings and share their thoughts with one another. She even said the things they can discuss is endless because different daily events happen to them everyday. In fact, thousands and thoousands of things to talk about. So this makes me ponder why some couples even after 2 years of marriage told me they have nothing much to talk about. They just sit in front of the TV and stare at it.
As for me, I played my part too, making an effort to sit beside her and watch her do work even though she has to look at computer monitor. I also does surprise my fiancee with bouquets of flower, little toys, gifts or even a packet of bread for her to bring to work because I know that she is too busy to take her lunch. Small gesture like this goes a long way.
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Many people say marriage is two people’s business. What matter most is both of you are happy and be there for each other.
I believe that the marriage is more than two people’s business; it is two families’ business!
The reason that the older folks give for intervening in two people’s business is “for your own good.” They just tell you “they leave the decision entirely to you” but “hoping that you will follow their decision”. Soon, the business will grow from two people to two families.
Hmmmm…I’m just wondering how many of you feel the same way as I do while you are reading this post?
Before food tasting, the older folks tell you they are there to give support and enjoy themselves. Then, when it came to deciding what the final menu is, some of the older folks will give their opinions. And they will tell you 100 “No”s why some of the food you have chosen is the wrong one. Some don’t say in front of everyone. Some leave it till they reach home and they tell the child. Then the child becomes the messenger between two families.
As for me, there are times I have to screen and filter the messages from my own family. If not, the preparation can’t move on. I’m more task-focused. “Ok, let’s make up our mind and move on. No point discussing this food matter for 2 weeks. There are still so much things to worry about and to plan. Anyway, we won’t get to eat on that day.”
My gut feeling is this is just a start: meeting both families’ expectations and the children being used as messengers. I think the key is to have lots of communication plus support within the couple themselves. And constantly reminding themselves, “let’s focus on the issues; none of them is to be blame. And they still love each other very much.”
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Hey…today’s GUEST blogger is my friend Phyllis and this post is from her:
–.:Life being married:.–
I used to think I would be alone all my life
Who am I kidding?
As from the moment I was born
My life is already shared among those around me
My parents, my sister and brother
My relations and friends?
I used to think my love is the same for all dear to me
Who am I kidding?
As from the moment I fell in love
My life had already evolved
My family includes his family and vice versa
My space has became our joint space
I used to think in laws are difficult to get along
Who am I kidding?
As from the moment I become their son?s wife
My in laws became my parents
My position in his family is by his side
My new mission in life is to be a dutiful wife
I used to think that it is very crowded to share a bed
Who am I kidding?
As from the moment we become man and wife
My side of the bed is often empty, as it is his side that is crowded
My comfort is when I feel the warmth of his body
My lullaby is when I hear his breathing
I used to think that it is tough to make it on our own
Who am I kidding?
As from the moment we took our vows
My life is no longer mine alone
My husband and I now possess the power of 2
My happiness is his and ours to make
I used to think that life is tough
Who am I kidding?
As from the moment I said ? I do
My life is no longer the same as when I am single
My fears and my woes are no longer mine alone
My everyday is exciting from the moment I open my eyes
– to my husband whom I love with all my heart and share my life with J
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here’s another poem that i wrote abt commitment 🙂
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C are for The One you love… 🙂
O pportunities for true love,
M ay happen only once,
M aybe, not at all in this life !
I love thee…
T hough we may not be,
M ost compatible,
E motions draw us close…
N atural instincts and fate,
T ie us together ?n? hopefully all our life…
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?There is a definition of “The Butterfly Effect” from a book by Ian Stewart:”The flapping of a single butterfly’s wing today produces…a tornado that would have devastated the coast…”
Very simple, it means small changes can have a dramatic effect or outcome over time. What does it got to do with relationship and marriages?
One small action, gesture, smile, kiss…any subtle body languagecan be interpreted differently by you and your partner and it can change the thought which will lead to different feelings…and to certain behaviour…and to certain outcomes.
For example, the husband had a bad day and might be recalling the day’s bad experiences in his mind. The wife was preparing the dinner and had been spending the whole day marketing and preparing the ingredients. A lot of effort was put in. The husband, having no appetite (as a result of the stresses from work) told the wife he doesn’t feel like eating. The wife felt not appreciated and become frustrated and started to quarrel with the husband.
Many times, little misunderstandings like this were not settled within that same day and the negative feeling become pent-up emotions which were eventually brought to surface in future conflicts. Today’s unsettled issues are used as future ammos for arguments.
What I want to say is disagreements are common in a relationships because both were brought up differently over the years and have different values, opinions, beliefs and so on. These leads to different perceptions of similar events.
The key to resolve conflicts is communication between both parties, with both parties taking their turns to speak out their thoughts and feelings and the other to listen with their heart, not just with the ear. Able to resolve present issues will save lots of future challenges in the relationship.
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