from angelavWhen the wedding plans heat up and start becoming the only topic in the bride’s home, it would be easy for you, as the bride’s mother, to begin to take over the arrangements and bring some sanity to the excitement.
Your actual responsibilities are to see that the wedding is a total reflection of what your daughter wants for her wedding day. That includes keeping her tastes in colors, flowers, food, music, her choice of wedding dress and the very tone of the ceremony and reception foremost in your mind. While it would be easy to try to shift some of the arrangements to be more like your wedding, you have to remember that this wedding is hers.
To start with, there are five primary responsibilities for you to tend to as the Mother of the Bride:
* Helping your daughter decide on her wedding dress is a major task that will, more than likely, require both of you. If your daughter falls in love with a certain gown and it is not to your taste, it would be best to support her decision, unless it makes her look like the Bride of Dracula. If so, you are on your own.
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from katieleeManaging a relationship is never easy…
It is even harder to manage your relationship plus your wedding…at the same time.
I was recalling the insanity I had gone through while planning my wedding. It was a nightmare.
Yes, a nightmare indeed…
Of course, I looked forward to walking the down with my fiancee (now my wife)
What had been nightmarish the experience I had with my mother-in-law.
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Last year was a fabulous year for me as it was a totally incredible journey for myself, my wife and getting used to her parents.
Yesterday was the last day of the year and we went back to my in-laws’ place for dinner.
Understanding that the situation between us and my mother-in-law, who is very hard to please, was very tense, I made an effort to buy a huge bouquet of flowers, 3 lillies and 3 pink tulips just for her.
I met up with my mentor in a town central and it was a brain-draining afternoon when he cramped me with so much internet-marketing stuff just before the year closed.
It was two hours of meeting and I made my way back to the market near my place to buy the bouquet from a regular florist whom I know and can trust.
It was another 1 hour bus journey to the west and we, with our heart beating, presented the flowers to my mother-in-law.
We thought that the flowers would kind of make her smile abit, if not welcome us with open arms when she sees us.
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Do you know the number one fear of newly-wed couples?
It is talking to your in-laws, especially mother-in-law.
I feared communicating to her as I saw her as a serious and stern lady.
I was having a lot of problem during my first 9 months after getting married.
It was not easy to patch things up between my wife and my mother-in-law.
Being in that position isn’t a place that husbands want to be.
You can’t take sides. Maybe you can.
But most of the times, you simply can’t take sides.
If you side with your mother-in-law, you can imagine what will happen at home later.
You may have scuffles and fights with your spouse.
If you side your wife, your mother-in-law isn’t going to be very hapy either.
It is an emotional torture. An emotional imprisonment.
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I had my dinner with mother-in-law and the whole of the family.
It was a touching moment and I was really glad the whole unhappy episode had drawn to a closure.
It was not easy to encourage my significant other to make a consistent effort to dine with her family.
It took a lot of nagging and gentle reminder.
However, I must say that the whole effort was paid off and we had a very wonderful dinner.
We had long chat over the sumptuous meals of prawns, sotong and other sea-food.
Again, the quality of the food didn’t really matter. It was the quality of the time spent.
Though it was just 3 hours of dinner time and catching up, I found it the most well-spent for the past few years.
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