I received a bad news today from one of the brides who broke up before their wedding.

Sometimes, I wonder is it a good news or not that break up does happen before the actual wedding ceremony.

It saddened me alot to hear the news as this bride had been actively planning her wedding for the past 9 months. I have been liaising with her through emails, giving her support through phone calls and she shared with me how excited she is about her own wedding.

However, the husband-to-be wasn’t very active in planning and giving her support. From the interpretation of the frustration she shared with me, it seemed that her fiance couldn’t really be bothered about his wedding.

It doesn’t look good.

Wedding planning may at most last for a year or two. Marriage lasts for an eternity.

The success of it is dependant on the proportion of effort and committment put in by the wedding couples.
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Here are my 37 Ways to Live With Your Spouse Daily: (I will be compiling this list to 101.)

1. Kiss each other good morning
2. Make breakfast for her
3. Close the door if she is still sleeping so as not to disturb her
4. Go for morning breakfast together
5. Go for a morning jog
6. Read the morning newspapers together
7. Plan the day’s activities together
8. Do house chores together
9. Let the husband sweep the floor while the wife mobs the floor
10. Make the bed together
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How much do you know about the person you have married?

Neither do I know much but it doesn’t stop me from understanding my wife more and more everyday.

Yesterday, I was helping my wife with some paper work and generally I typed faster than I speak.

I also have the eye for details and I can spot any error or typo if there is one.

I do love to read alot and sometimes I give suggestions to my wife to run her group of little monkeys using management strategies that huge Multi National Companies have used.

Hmmm, quite interesting to see that different strategies, once fine-tuned to suit the needs of different environment do work to certain extent.

What I am doing my best to say here is that husband and wife have different strengths, skills and knowledge. Most of the times, the husband may have the solution to the wife’s problem at work and sometimes, the wife can help the husband out with relationship problem with his boss.

Remember ladies always have the magical personal touch.

Thus, husbands may want to seriously “hire” their wives as interpersonal relationship consultant.

Personally, I love coming up with tactics and methods to work around various difficult situations.
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Making wedding works is more than preparing the wedding tasks and fulfilling them.

It is going to be tiring and frustrating!!! Very frustrating!!!

Wedding-related tasks include getting the bridal studio, contacting hotels, calling and making appointment with the wedding photographers, food tasting and many more.

These tasks are simple to do. The hardest part is how to get your soon-to-be spouse to remain supportive all the way. And not just till the wedding.

There is still a very long way to go.

I have always told brides and grooms that the mini-quarrels they have during their wedding preparation is just the tip of the iceberg and it is normal to have disagreement once in a while.

More will come along the way and in bigger quality and quantity!!!

My wife and I do have conflicts too and this is absolutely normal.

Couples who tell me over the tele-consultation that they have never argued before in their lives are abnormal.

Why having conflicts while preparing wedding is healthy?
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My wife’s birthday is coming and normally her birthday celebration will last for a week and sometimes even longer.

I remembered she had 7 birthday gifts last year and she was given one gift per day till her birthday.

This year she wanted a MP3 player and I decided to buy for her as I felt that she deserved a reward for her hard work in school.

It was a surprise for her and I specially made a trip to Suntec to purchase it. I only told her when I called her on the phone.

It was meant to be a surprise. The excitement won’t be there if I had told her the purpose of the trip earlier.

Many people believed that sparks do get extinguished after wedding. I beg to differ. I prefer to see it as transformation of sparks into something even better.
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