When we were young, we have this ideal picture of our partner who we want to spend with the rest of our lives.

My expectation of my ideal partner was not high. As long as both of us are happy and healthy, this will be what I ask for.

My fiancee is a very understanding person and she loves me because of who I am. I have flaws, just like being another normal human being, and I have strengths too.

From what I see around me, many couples push to mould their partners to become what they think is ideal. And along the way, there will be conflicts, arguments and quarrels.

Who want to be moulded into somebody who we are not? Would you?

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My fiancee and I have communicated with each other, reminding each other that we are married to each other. We will try to be more loving and caring because now both of us have to take good care of each other.
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Everyday, our bodies grow tired after the numerous pressure and stress we have to go through. My fiancee and I will take turn to massage each other’s neck, shoulder, hand and fingers.

There are a few advantages to this quality time that we spent together.

Massage can reduce or even completely remove the physical stress from the body.
By being massaged by someone you love, it can even indirectly show care and concern by your love ones. In addition, the time spent together can increase bonding and relationship between you and your partner.

You do not need a long time to do the massage. A mere 5 minutes to 10 minutes per day can do wonder to both body and soul. Apart from this, I personally feel it is a commitment to delegate a short time each other to feel emotionally connected to each other. So, it will add more sparks and fire to the relationship.

Below, I will share some videos that I have chanced upon in another web site.
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My Big day is drawing near…so much feelings inside me. Looking back at how much we had prepared, we felt a sign of relief that we had done most of the things we need to do.

What are the other feelings do we have? I’m quite doubtful things will go well on that day. What do I meant by that? I’m talking about culture clash.

My fiancee is from Hong Kong and we do have friends and relatives from Hong Kong. In Singapore’s context, we practice what Singaporean practice. Hong Kong’s wedding custom is high complex, detailed and traditional. There must be exact timings to do certain things such as entering the door, going out of the house and so on. These are minor details.

I’m talking much on how people from Hong Kong will perceive. It will be a culture shock!!!
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It is another few more days nearer to my wedding. As I looked back, I somehow don’t really understand how we coordinated and planned everything needed for our big day.

It ranged from buying of proposal ring, choosing the right bridal studio, selecting the hotels, negotiating with the staff, getting help from cousins and friends, and at the same seeking to understand ourselves better and trying to compromise wth respect to culture and values conflicts.

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1 more month…stress and pressure gradually lifted off my chest and shoulders…i really felt lighter now…much lighter than before…you couldn’t possibly imagine what i have gone through living each day, with 3 times or even 10 times the pressure on me…really suffocating…for a moment, i had a real taste what depression really means…totally shut off…withdraw from people, even my love ones…absolutely tense up and feeling hopeless and helpless…prefer to be alone in the world of negative thoughts…in my world that everything seems to go wrong…

?now, as i have said, i felt better…thanks to the love that i have received from people around me…thanks to the angels protecting me…(hmmm….it is during tough times that i started to believe there are really angels.) thanks to my will power that has brought me standing upright again…thank to my rational thinking that things can eventually be better…thank the world that there is still HOPE…

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