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Who says wedding problems and stress will disappear after your wedding day?

No one says it and we all assume they will.

It is not easy to admit we have wedding stress. To admit only means that we are weaklings – weaklings who can’t even cope with our wedding day.

I’m not weakling and I dare admit that I do have wedding stress.

In fact, stress after wedding is normally accumulated before wedding and it is many times, we are still not able to cope.
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Whether you like it or not, stress will come and haunt you while you are happily preparing for your big day.

Initally you may not be aware of it.

You will feel a little overwhelmed when you first sit down and start planning your wedding checklist.

Then while looking at the tremendous number of tasks to do (from inviting the guests to making your own wedding invitation cards), you will tell yourself “I think I can do it.”

As months passed, and your energy is drained due to the amount of work and sapped by the people around you (mostly by your mother-in-law), you find yourself feeling tired and listless and maybe even scared.

And worse, your fiance is not supportive and doesn’t provide a listening ear. All he just says is “Don’t worry.”

You feel unheard and you are going to break down now, if not soon.

Have you ever felt this way before?

We all had this experience and it is normal to feel it.

The “secrets” to not breaking down is to be aware of your wedding stress and know how to handle your wedding stress.

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1. Talk it out to someone who listens
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My mind was rather heavy this few days especially having attended a funeral.

One of my colleague’s husband passed away and it was rather sudden.

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One year after my wedding, I finally have time to meet up with some friends on Saturday night and it was a good catch up.

Two of us, including myself are married and we no doubt agree that our roles have been changing over time. And they still are.

Before marriage, we were bachelors always working for ourselves and we had the freedom to plan our daily schedule. We just have to work to bring in monthly income both for ourselves and our parents, at least for me.

I recalled while planning our wedding, it was not easy. I somehow felt the stretch in me, at least financially.

Finance was my biggest worry then and it still is.

Wedding took up most of my savings and drove my saving account to below zero mark. Luckily, my loving mother was helping me pay at least half of the bills and I still owe her the money.

After marriage, we have so much to plan for and these are the ones.
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I came across this interesting topic in a bridal forum: why do men change after marriage?

No, no, no. Men don’t change after marriage.

It is our perception that was changed.

Let me ask you a question.

Before marriage, have you ever lived with your men 24 hours a day for a few days at least or even up to a week.

I don’t think so.

Couples spent really short time before marriage and that is why they present the best side of themselves in front of each other.

They won’t fart. Neither will they dig their nose or burp out loud.

It is only after marriage that they may start doing such things.

Some brides described their men as “all hell broke loose” in them after marriage. They just let it all out after they have officially become husband and wife.

I know some brides even described it as their men change on the first night after marriage

Before marriage, there is just this physical attraction. You may know your partner significantly well but not good enough to know his dark side, if not his ugliest side.

After every wedding comes a marriage. With marriage, couples need to learn another set of soft skills like giving respect and managing expectations to sustain their marriage.

Personally I feel that respect after marriage is very important. If the couples are normal human beings, they don’t change much after marriage.

Yes! Life after marriage is going to be evry different, whether you like it or not.
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