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Whether you like it or not, stress will come and haunt you while you are happily preparing for your big day.

Initally you may not be aware of it.

You will feel a little overwhelmed when you first sit down and start planning your wedding checklist.

Then while looking at the tremendous number of tasks to do (from inviting the guests to making your own wedding invitation cards), you will tell yourself “I think I can do it.”

As months passed, and your energy is drained due to the amount of work and sapped by the people around you (mostly by your mother-in-law), you find yourself feeling tired and listless and maybe even scared.

And worse, your fiance is not supportive and doesn’t provide a listening ear. All he just says is “Don’t worry.”

You feel unheard and you are going to break down now, if not soon.

Have you ever felt this way before?

We all had this experience and it is normal to feel it.

The “secrets” to not breaking down is to be aware of your wedding stress and know how to handle your wedding stress.

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1. Talk it out to someone who listens

There are many times though we shared with our closest friend, they just say “not to worry.”

Oh! What a “helpful” advice!

Do we really need advice or just an avenue to release our pent-up emotion?

Do we really need someone to tell us what to do when we feel so trapped and helpless?

Do we really need someone to tell us to “not to worry”?

So, what you need to do is to find someone who really listens from an empathic point of view.

Find someone who really listens and just stay by your side or even provide you a shoulder to cry out.

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2. Tell yourself: “Not all will go well.”

Initally you will get excited!

“Oh my wedding is coming and I’m going to make it perfect!” you tell yourself.

And you will be “perfectly” drained during your big day.

Allow room for deviation from your ideal plan.

In this world, nothing will come to the ideal stage. Perhaps you are confident that you can, by all means go ahead and do it.

There are some of us who just do not have the energy to push our way through to achieve our ideal wedding.

Have this mindset in place and we will not feel so stressed up trying very hard to get what we want.

And on your wedding day, things will crop up. Let them be. No plan is perfect. Just make sure you keep on smiling and enjoy your big day.

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3. Plan a non-wedding day

Don’t tired of planning your own wedding and I mean it.

Do it a few times more, you will feel drained and will lose the excitement over it.

Then, you ask yourself is it worth it to go through so much quarrels, disagreements, unhappiness.

Sometimes, the unlucky ones give up on themselves and their weddings.

Yes, they cancel their weddings just because they can’t take it anymore.

Allow space for yourself to breathe.

Set aside every Friday to have a date with your prince and don’t talk about your wedding planning.

Just like good old days. Free to chat about anything, except your wedding.

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4. Chill out & relax

Don’t be obsessed with your wedding planning such that you only eat, sleep and breathe “wedding planning”.

Remember you still have yourself, friends, families to mingle with.

Spend a day or two each month to hang out with your friends!

Tell them about your wedding planning, if they ask you.

Share your ups and downs.

Through sharing, you can releasing your worries, tensions and when talking it out, you will find better solutions to your wedding problems.

It is therapeutic! Go test it out and you will feel elss choked and more relaxed.

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5. You stll need to talk to your prince

I have always tell couples who are planning their wedding to always discuss and come to a compromise together.

Always include your fiance.

The decision made may not be the ideal one but this is not important.

The process is.

Many wedding couples made the mistake of outsourcing their entire wedding planning to wedding planners and they just need to turn up on that day.

Even if you can afford to, keep some tasks to both of you so that you can learn to discuss, communicate and compromise with each other.

And this is important for your newly marriage life.

Those who skip this step will be shocked when their spouse reveal their true self after wedding.

It is just that spouses have yet to spend enough time to understand and really learn all about their partners.

So don’t be shocked later. Rather you are shocked now and learn about the true side of your spouse.

*What are your ways to cope with your wedding stress? Have you had similar stories? Please share your thoughts with us in the comments. See you there. 🙂