I have heard of some stories of brides harrassed by wedding photographer.

My thoughts:

In fact, at this point in time I have many thoughts in my mind.

One of them is that the photographer is unethical. Even though he is the photographer and many times, he would need to help adjust the bridal gowns such that the bride will look her best, at the same time, he must take care of the welfare of the bride.

I’m not sure how to put it but I think you know what I meant.

The wedding couples (both the bride and groom) must be well taken care of such that they enjoy the whole wedding photoshoot session.

I still remember the joy as well as the discomfort we went through during our wedding photoshot.

We spent 12 hours in the bridal studio and I pity my wife for having had to endure the long hours of having her make-up and hair-do done. It was not easy. The hours were long and we were quite mentally drained out when it was about 3pm.

We had quick bite for lunch and we remembered we had to smile and pose for the photographs.

Luckily, our wedding photographer was very professional and comical at the same time.

That is why when I read the forum, I was tremendously angered by the treatment on the bride by the part-time photographer. I feel that the photographer, be it a full time or part time, has no right to be in physical contact with the bride at all times.

Even if he wants to adjust the bride’s face or gowns, he must always ask for permission from the bride. The bride is a lady after all who ought to be respected. Moreover, she is the customer.

I know, by right the bride can file a complain. However, I know there may be times the couple may find it to be quite embarrassing, especially for the bride.

It is afterall a once-a-lifetime experience and many chose to let such unpleasant experience to pass and move on.

I was not surprised when the other brides in the forum told her to let go of this incident and move on.

Sounds easy for them to say but I’m sure it isn’t for the bride.

This was a bad experience and would have somehow left a scar in the whole wedding planning process.

Now, the bride even has phobia when she recalled the incident.

What do you think she should do?

My cousin will be getting married really soon and I am elated for her nuptial.

I feel delighted and my thoughts were pre-occupied with the happenings of last year.

I was married last year and exactly a year ago, I was feeling frustrated, tense and anxious.

Yes, I was very excited over my wedding.

However, there were so many unpredictable things happening every week and these things were driving me crazy.

Yes, crazy is the word to describe my wedding preparation!

There were money issues, mother-in-law’s issues, wedding preparation issues and other inevitable invisble issues.

My head was literally cramped with stuff and yes, I remembered I was having my few examinations for my Gradute Diploma.

I was triply stressed: wedding, exam and work!
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Today I received an email from a ex-subscriber to My Wedding Blog.

In the reason she gave was “No Longer Preparing Wedding“.

Immediately there are a few thoughts on my mind.

Is she not preparing her wedding because it has been postponed?

Or is it cancelled?

I have a couple of experiences when some other previous brides emailed me thanking me for my help and in addition to that, they mentioned that they no longer needed my help.

I was elated initially as I thought their weddings were over. However, they explained that their weddings were called off due to some unforseen circumstances.

I was saddened to hear such news. Inevitably, in my journey to provide help for all brides and grooms who are preparing for their weddings, I will still hear such news which are unavoidable in the long run.

Sad or not sad, it is up to the bride herself to decipher.

I have some ex-brides who emailed me again a few weeks after their weddings were called off, sharing that the decision was indeed appropriate when they gave it more thoughts.
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Many of us thought that having a wedding is a great joy.

Yes, it is. It is a bliss.

And at the same time, many of us forget that it comes together as a package.

You know it is like a big project and your fiance is your partner.

Have you taken part in any project at all?

Does everything go smoothly?

Or sometimes you feel like strangling your partner who you see as uncooperative or want to “eat snake” (meaning laze around and refuse to help)?

It is not easy.
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I recently text a reader of mine who I treated as a friend. Her wedding plan didn’t turn out as well as expected and I was worried for her.

Her wedding was called off.

She replied she was doing fine and moving on in her life.

That is the spirit!

I couldn’t tell her “I understand how I feel.”

I never will. Neither will you.

How will we understand what someone has gone through?

I don’t think I ever will.

Looking at the brighter perspective, it may be better for some of us to relook at what we actually want for our marriage.

It is also a good time to review if he is someone who we want to live with for the rest of our lives.

I was reading this marriage guide book for newly-wed couples this afternoon.

I am not sure how much you will agree.
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