Do you know what to get for your wedding? I’m sure you may be already overwhelmed by the endless list of wedding items you need to get them, not forgetting you still have an endless list of things to do.

from lovedroplets.com

As for me, I even forgot about getting my Ang Pow Box till the week before my wedding. There are just too many things on my mind.

I will be doing a few posts on the wedding items wedding couples need to get or make.

Yes, some wedding couples I know make their very own wedding items.

For me, I had to learnt what are the things to do-it-yourself or buy. If you are talking about the wedding items in large quantity, please spend some money to get them. Imagine having already spent a few thousands of dollars on your honey moon trip, wedding gows and photohsoot, what is another tens of dollars for a nicer wedding item say wedding favors or an ang pow box and the ring pillow?

Here are first 5 items you need for your wedding:

Flower basket:
Do you have flower girls to sprinkle rose petals as you are walking down the aisle with your dear one? These flower girls need a flower basket to put their flowers. I know some brides actually knitted the baskets themselves. Yes, you can do it only if you have time.

Corsages:
Just in case you do not know what a corsage is, it is a flower accessory tied around the wrist of bridesmaids during wedding. Please get corsages that suit your wedding theme and let your bridesmaids know the color theme too. A color contrast of the flowers and the dresses could make the bridesmaids feel awkward.
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It was definitely a sigh of relief after the wedding dinner. A year or more of wedding planning certainly was no joke.

As much as we found it really enjoyable and stressful at the same time, we also realised it was the beginning of another long journey for us.

But who cares at that point in time. “Let’s go for our honeymoon first” say most couples.

It was a time to relax and reward yourselves for a mega project completed.

There are some routines that some husbands and wives share with me.

from trussel.com

A colleague of mine shared with me that she and husband will go for daily walk after their dinner without fail.

We are doing our best to go for walks at night too to find out more about each other’s daily lives. And of course, it is a good chance for us to grumble and let out our negative energy.

Another friend of mine who was newly wed for a few months made it a point to go travelling once a year. Even though travelling can be quite common for locals, making the trips to become a yearly “honeymoon” certainly make those trips more meaningful.

This year, we went to Vietnam, Ho Chin Minh and next year perhaps to Cambodia, Laos and North Korea. How exciting!!!

A good friend of mine plans a yearly joint activity with his wife, be it cooking, dancing or jogging. On alternate year, they will do something that each of them enjoys. One year, he accompanied his wife to a flower-decor class.

I remembered I attended Hatha Yoga class with my wife last year and I was the only guy in the class beside the teacher. It was completely uncomfortable at first but I was doing it for my wife. This year, I attended Pilate. Not too bad as there was one more guy.
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Men are from Mars and women are from Venus. How true this statement is?

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Men and women worry about different wedding related things. Their wedding related stress is different most of the times even though some matters may overlap.

I remembered when I was planning my wedding, I was worried about money. My parent was nice enough to lend me some to tide over bad times.

My advice is if you don’t have money, don’t get married yet. Bills just come pouring in and being the guy, I would need to fork out most of the money.

Even though we are living in a different era when men and women are supposed to be equal, my practice is that men should pay more of the wedding expenses, if not all.

What else does a guy worry about?

A guy may worry about if the wedding plans go as planned. However, it seemed to me that most of my lady friends were planning their weddings while their husbands-to-be sat back and relaxed.

I remembered a very real story from my friend that her boyfriend specifically told her he won’t be with her during gown-fitting because it was draggy and a complete waste of his time.

At this point in time, I believe her worry was if she was marrying the right man!

Ladies’ other worries may be if there can be harmony between her and her parent-in-laws.

Alot of time we never really know until we lived together under the same roof top. A lady friend of mine couldn’t even stand a week staying with her in-laws after her wedding and decided to move out after that. Reason was unknown.

Sometimes, the main source of stress can come from the brides’ parents. One excellent example is her mother wants to play her role in planning the wedding for her daughter.
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It is a very controversial topic and many people, especially after their weddings, have different opinions on this.

Are Singaporean guy romantic?

from kafwang.com

In fact, there are some male friends of mine who are.

I remembered a male friend of mine deployed 10 of his friends to make a heart using fire sprinklers at a beach. The size was about half of a basketball court. It was their second year into their relationship.

Another male friend of mine sprinkled rose petals in a hotel room during Valentine’s Day and lined the petals from the middle of the bed to the door.

The third male friend of mine inflated tens of heart-shaped balloons using helium gas and filled his car’s boot with them. He blindfolded his girlfriend and led her to open the boot by herself and the amzing sight was when all the balloons flew up.

Of course again, these special acts are done during special days such as wedding anniversaries, birthdays, Valentine’s Days and even wedding proposals.

What about normal days, especially after their wedding?

Many of my female friends complained that reality set in once after their weddings ended and their husbands cut down the surprises and gifts for them.

For a moment, they realised they were getting more before their weddings.

I heard that from a lady that her husband was absolutely not a romantic man who doesn’t even cooked instant noodle for her. Thus, she could only wish her husband do romantic things only when she sleeps.

Others grumbled that they never receive a paper aeroplane from their husbands and getting paper cranes from them can only be a dream.
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Have you ever realised that once after marriage, your tolerance towards your spouse’s flaws dropped drastically?

from plan4divorce.co.uk

I think it is a common phenomenon among married couples after their big wedding day. They find faults so much easier in their marriage life compared to their courtship life.

In courtship days, things are still so much magical, pleasant and the reality of life had not set in yet. Couples only come to realise that their partners, being so human, only have flaws that normal humans do have.

I have to admit that I am guilty of doing this too and admiting it doens’t mean I’m wrong. We all make mistakes and it is only scary when couples claim that their relationship is forever conflict and argument free.

It is even worse when they say they never took each other for granted before.

There are alot of times our expectations towards each other elevated over the years and we easily get grumpy when the hidden expectations on our spouses are not met.

This is a trap and third parties become so much attractive.

There is a saying that marriage is not ruined because of third party. Marriage is already going downhill and that is when third party comes in.

So let’s see what we can do not to take our spouses for granted.
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