Men are from Mars and women are from Venus. How true this statement is?

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Men and women worry about different wedding related things. Their wedding related stress is different most of the times even though some matters may overlap.

I remembered when I was planning my wedding, I was worried about money. My parent was nice enough to lend me some to tide over bad times.

My advice is if you don’t have money, don’t get married yet. Bills just come pouring in and being the guy, I would need to fork out most of the money.

Even though we are living in a different era when men and women are supposed to be equal, my practice is that men should pay more of the wedding expenses, if not all.

What else does a guy worry about?

A guy may worry about if the wedding plans go as planned. However, it seemed to me that most of my lady friends were planning their weddings while their husbands-to-be sat back and relaxed.

I remembered a very real story from my friend that her boyfriend specifically told her he won’t be with her during gown-fitting because it was draggy and a complete waste of his time.

At this point in time, I believe her worry was if she was marrying the right man!

Ladies’ other worries may be if there can be harmony between her and her parent-in-laws.

Alot of time we never really know until we lived together under the same roof top. A lady friend of mine couldn’t even stand a week staying with her in-laws after her wedding and decided to move out after that. Reason was unknown.

Sometimes, the main source of stress can come from the brides’ parents. One excellent example is her mother wants to play her role in planning the wedding for her daughter.

Many times, she may have forgotten her daughter has already grown up into a fine young adult. In the mother’s eyes, we are always still the children and will overstep into the bride’s boundary.

The end result is an unhappy and stressful bride.

I wonder how many of you share the experience?

These are 5 ways you can cope with these stresses:
1. Discuss with your spouse-to-be the stress you are experiencing.
2. Come out with a plan how both of you can support each other.
3. Remind each other both of you are planning together, not alone.
4. Plan one to two days off per week wedidng-planning free.
5. Do your best in planning your wedding and tell yourself you have done your best even if things go wrong.