Hey…today’s GUEST blogger is my friend Phyllis and this post is from her:

–.:Life being married:.–

I used to think I would be alone all my life
Who am I kidding?
As from the moment I was born
My life is already shared among those around me
My parents, my sister and brother
My relations and friends?

I used to think my love is the same for all dear to me
Who am I kidding?
As from the moment I fell in love
My life had already evolved
My family includes his family and vice versa
My space has became our joint space

I used to think in laws are difficult to get along
Who am I kidding?
As from the moment I become their son?s wife
My in laws became my parents
My position in his family is by his side
My new mission in life is to be a dutiful wife

I used to think that it is very crowded to share a bed
Who am I kidding?
As from the moment we become man and wife
My side of the bed is often empty, as it is his side that is crowded
My comfort is when I feel the warmth of his body
My lullaby is when I hear his breathing

I used to think that it is tough to make it on our own
Who am I kidding?
As from the moment we took our vows
My life is no longer mine alone
My husband and I now possess the power of 2
My happiness is his and ours to make

I used to think that life is tough
Who am I kidding?
As from the moment I said ? I do
My life is no longer the same as when I am single
My fears and my woes are no longer mine alone
My everyday is exciting from the moment I open my eyes

– to my husband whom I love with all my heart and share my life with J

here’s another poem that i wrote abt commitment 🙂?

C are for The One you love… 🙂
O pportunities for true love,
M ay happen only once,
M aybe, not at all in this life !
I love thee…
T hough we may not be,
M ost compatible,
E motions draw us close…
N atural instincts and fate,
T ie us together ?n? hopefully all our life…

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We went for our food tasting today. A table for ten people was arranged in a function room specially reserved for us. And we had a waitress allocated to serve us and to explain to us the food we were eating. I’m not used to the classy environment and for a moment, I felt “wow”.

We even had to fill up an evaluation form to rate the dishes and give our comments.

Here is the menu for tonight: Enjoy!!! :p “Hope it won’t make you hungry!”

1. Cold & Hot Platter- Roast Duck, Prawn salad, Japanese Octopus, Pacific Clams, Top Shell

Comment: The chicken is too salty and we requested it to be changed to suckling pig. The octopus would be just nice if less salty.

2. Shark’s fin soup with crabmeat and conpoy

Comment: Wow…it was really dense and so concentrated with shark fins…so dense that I could hardly stir…but then hor…is it like that for food tasting so we will be impressed and the quantity will differ on the actual day?

3. Cispy Pi-pa duck

Comment: The skin was really crispy and you can let it be crunched in your mouth. :p A bit salty though but the decor was nicely done.

4. Mixed mushrooms wrapped with beancurd skin in bamboo pith

Comment: I love it especially the beancurd skin.

5. Stir-fried prawns with apple mayonnaise

Comment: The apples were cut too big and taste sour…”yucks”…mismatch with the prawns…maybe mango will be better. The “you tiao” is abit extra.

6. Stir-fried fresh scallops with celery in xo sauce

Comment: The scallops were fresh and delicious and soft. Very good!!! 😀

7. Garoupa, deep fried with thai sauce

Comment: The chilli is too hot for poor me who can’t eat chilli at all and I got choked by the chilli bits till my eyes were teary. We changed it to garoupa steamed with supreme black sauce.

8. Braised ee-fu noodles with crabmeat and chives

Comment: By now, my stomach was very bloated and I couldn’t eat anymore. Okie, can we ta-bao back?…we only asked for half-a-bowl serving of noodles but to me, still alot. Later must walk home lor.

9. Chilled sweetcorn with water chestnut

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As the title suggests, we date the adult who is always on the best behavior. When couples got married, most married with high expectations that may tumble down fast. Some expectations can be unrealistic like must spend all his/ her time with me, must be able to read my mind, must know what the other spouse is thinking, must tell me “I love you” everyday (if not may think the spouse doesn’t care for the other anymore). and the list goes on.

Many times, while we were growing up as a child into adult, we may have more of certain things and may lack other things. For example, the husband may come from a family that doesn’t openly show love such as hugging. However, for the wife, she grows up among family members who hugs each other as way of showing care and concern. After marriage, the wife will be expecting the husband to hug her all the time (and the husband may feel uncomfortable in the first place or he may assumes one or two hugs will suffice.) Then, the wife may get angry and the husband may feel akward. Then, they may end up quarreling over the number of hugs she deserves. Yes, this is the presenting issue. But they have not understood the underlying issue is the different environment both are brought up as a child.

For those of you who feel this is confusing, do be fair to yourself and allow yourself enough time to process and digest what you have read. I feel this book can help us understand many couples each other better. Hope this info helps!!!

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