Many of my readers emailed me what is life like after marriage.

In fact, I’m not even sure what the right way married couple should feel after marriage.

For me, I feel comfortable and glad that the wedding was finally over. We had painstakingly planned for one year plus and everything ended in less than a day.

At this stage, I feel really comfortable with the shared life I had with my wife. I tried to minimise changes in our daily habits. We still carry on to be who we are and continue to do what we do.

There is definitely some shared roles and responsibilites like washing clothes, vacuuming and mobbing the floor and washing dishes after every meal.

For me, I also learnt about respect and communication.

Respect in the sense respect that she is tired after work and I just keep her company.

Communication in the sense we share with each other our thoughts, problems and challenges so we can better understand each other and learn to cope together.

Two heads are definitely better than one, aren’t they? >.<

Married life means a life of commitment. There is no longer just you or me but it is about us. Us means you+me or even you overlapping me.

To me, married life means being there for her when she has happy (or sad) things she wants to share with me.

Married life means understanding how hectic my partner’s work has been and understanding that she may be affected in one way or the other.

Married life means forgiving my partner for not having spent enough time with me.

I had heard of stories of how husband had taken his wife for granted and even blaming her for not spending enough time at home, for bringing complaints from work to home or even for not having taken good care of the children.

For me, my personal opinion is it is ok for my wife to talk about the stress she faced in work because she must have felt comfortable to share with me and she feels safe with me. And this is why she shares with me.

I don’t know. I have heard of spouses feeling really irritated by the complaints from their significant others.

If after she shares with me and she feels better, I don’t mind sharing half of her burden.

If after she shares with me and she knows a better way to cope, I don’t mind listening to what she says.

If after she shares with me and I could understand her better, I don’t mind spending my time hearing her out.

If I, as the husband won’t listen, who will?

He drew well but won’t be able to from now on.

Though I had only seen him once or twice from a distance, the image of the hummingbird that he drew seemed to be so close…just as if in front of my eyes.

An amicable, creative and talented young man I must say.

And I have no idea why such great man is taken away by God from his very dear family members?

This morning when I woke up, I received a sms from my colleague that the younger brother of another colleague had passed away yesterday night.

It was a shock that things seem to happen so quickly, suddenly and without warning.
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Everyday is a new day for us…for us to know and understand each other better.

Everyday is a day of saying “I love you” and planting gentle kisses on each other’s cheeks and lips.

Everyday is thanking my partner for trusting me, loving me and for treating me for I really am.

There is no need to be the ideal someone that we have always wanted to be.

There is no need to be the ideal prince or princess who we once wanted to be.

There is no need to look beyond what we already have.

I know what I have always wanted is always here beside me: Love from those who love me.

I remember a story of the family of a chick.

The chick was well-taken care of by the mother hen while the rooster went out to look for food.

When the chick grew up and could move around, the mother hen brought it out of their home.

And while the mother hen and the chick were exploring the environment, the rooster’s role is like a protector, guarding his family to the extent. .. to the extent … to the extent …

of getting himself killed if it can save his family from harm…

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I want to be the rooster … >.<

Yesterday was quite a day with mixture of feelings…on one hand, i can celebrate for having taken my last exam paper for this year and it marks the end of one year of endurance and tolerance…on the other hand, some unpleasant event surfaced.

let’s take a peek into my life for this year:
Since January, I have been busy preparing the wedding
In addition, I have to do my professional attachment which involves alot of life-churning experience.

I have 2 exam papers to take in June and one more yesterday.

Stress from work+stress from school+stress from inside+stress from wedding+stress from families = can make me into a superman

Along the way, there are many more hurdles to cross: culture conflict, parent-child conflict, customer-hotel disagreement, locating the right places to get the right stuff, compromising on Bethrodal items and many more…(you can’t really imagine the amount of stress both of us are bearing.)
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