Wedding is just a start for conflicts and disagreements to become the daily issues of couples.

In fact, some long term couples or even the newly-wed have already tasted what fire unresolved conflicts can bring.

from cls.yale.edu

I was at the bus stop waiting for a bus one day when I heard a young couple quarreling. I happened to overhear that the issues were not spending enough time with her.

The first thing the guy did was to blame the girl too for not having enough time at all due to her work. The girl rebuked with a continuous ammo of her past unpleasant experiences that she had spending time all alone.

Blames on each other got torpedoed at each other and they forgot they were in the public.

A lot of times happily married couples resolved their conflicts differently. They use humors and give way to the other party.

Giving way is not equal to confessing that you are in the wrong. It only means respect to the relationship.

Many times my friends who were in relationship asked me if we ever argued or quarreled.
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Some couples only remember to celebrate during their birthdays, wedding anniversaries and other important occasions.

What if they treat everyday just like a wedding day?

from clarkflower.com

I would love to and I’m doing my best to follow this routine. There is no need any special occasion, and that is why I buy my wife a bouquet of flowers once a month to surprise her.

Even if she wanted a reason, I would say it is a prize for her for working so hard everyday.

Everyday, we ask about how each other’s day went. We are interested to hear what has happened throughout the whole day.

No filtering. No screening. We wanted to hear both the good and bad.

We make an effort to show interest in each other’s likings.
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Relationship is interestingly funny, in the sense there is hundred and one way to start a relationship.

To have a strong foundation in your after-wedding life, we need to start off from how the relationship is formed in the first place.

A friend was kind enough to share with me that how her brother-in-law started off as her tutor.

Others mentioned they started off when they were in the same faculty in colleges or Universities.

from motorcycletime.com

In fact, hostel stays in Universities had allowed infinite opportunities for opposite genders to spark off their romance.

Last year, I attended 9 wedding dinners in all (including solemnisation).

Many of my friends who got married last year started off as acquantainces in hostels. They started to meet in groups for meals in the hostel’s canteens and the group size gradually dwindled to a size of two.

Freedom, lots of it, is available in hostels without mom and dad watching over and this gave them freedom to plan their nights out and return hall late.

In fact, from what I understood the alternate floor stay for different gender was done on purpose for the obvious reason.

Hmmm, what about those who don’t stay in hostels?
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Hair-do is the key essential to a lady’s image. And that is why they spent hundred of dollars every a month or two to give themselves a new look.

from artofstu.com

I am really fascinated by the different hairstyle I am seeing and how hair styles move and evolve with fashion trends.

In any case, I also realised trends do revert to those of olden days with new add-on ideas.

When a man got married, there must be many embracing of lady’s culture.

Be encouraging when she decided to cut her hair short and have a new look.

Be assuring when she couldn’t fit into a dress she bought many years ago.

Be patient when she was mesmerised by the sales in shops that sell anything from dresses to shoes to jewellery.

When a man and a woman stay together, there bound to be clashed in values, beliefs, practices from the past twenty or thirty years before marriage.

Do give each other space to adjust to the new environment as well as physical space for your wife’s old clothes plus future new clothes.
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Marriage is a funny thing. We look forward to it so much and spend our entire savings on having the best wedding we can have.

And yet, newly-wed or long-term married couples do quarrel and have conflicts every now and then.

from poster.net

Likewise, courtship experience such patterns.

When you see the girl of your dream, you are determined to have her as your stead. And once you got her, maintaining the relationship requires more effort and hard work.

Moving from a stead-status to a wife-status becomes a partnership.

Similarly for marriage, it requires a life-time of commitment, perserverance, understanding and many more factors to build a strong foundation.

Planning wedding is easy. The tasks are simple. If some of you may find wedding-planning overwhelming, a hundred more times load and stress await you in marriage life.

I was talking to my female friend who had a tiff or two with her boyfriend once in a while. It is normal for many relationship. Even the best of friends do have disagreements once in a while.

They may be in the form of short spat, all-out shouting matches or stony silence.
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