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I remember a friend told me that getting married is easy. But making your marriage works is even harder.

He is a proud father of 3 daughters, age 10, 12 and 16 and he has a lovely wife.

Many times, I am wondering how many children do we have in our new family.

Having planned our wedding and our nice honeymoon, we are now in debt. I think in Singapore, many couples are. Maybe 8 out of 10.

There are different types of debts, be it you loan your money from the bank or from your parents or from friends.

There are the lucky few who got their weddings fully sponsored by their parents.

Are they really lucky?
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Before your wedding ceremony, do you do warm up for your cheeks?

You won’t want to over-stress them and have numbed cheeks at the end of your wedding day.

During my big day, I just can’t stop smiling. I have to. There are cameras ponting towards me all the time.

I feel tired after noon time. But I have no choice.

“So, Jhong Ren, keep on smiling!”

So, I have found some creative ways to keep smiling, even if my cheeks were numbed or when I didn’t feel like to.

So, here you can learn the secrets on how to keep smiling and enjoy your wedding day (beside looking at happy items such as “the happiest blog“.)
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1. It is only a day
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“Hi JR,

We just had our meeting of our parents on 8th November. I’m not very happy with my mother and my fiance’s mother as both of them kept repeating that we, the youngsters seem not to have our own point of view and are not specific enough in the wedding arrangement we want to make for ourselves. Thus his mother kept saying that I, as the bride, seem not to know what to prepare for our own wedding. This makes me feel very upset. I also feel that it seem that they are not interested in our wedding. It made me regret agreeing to get married in the first place.

The other problem I am facing right now is that my wedding will be on 23 November 2008 and I have not prepared anything yet, and I do not know where to start preparing. 🙁 I’m going crazy soon!!

From Susan”

My reply:

“Hi Susan,
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I saw a post from my friend Kloudiia and she has blogged about “A New Age Husband“.

Here are 37 things a Sensitive and New Age Husband can do:
1. Massage her everyday
2. Fetch her from work
3. Send her to work
4. Help mark her school work
5. Do house chores
6. Cook for her
7. Wash her clothes
8. Iron her clothes
9. Do marketing
10. Take care of the babies
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I was listening to class 95FM and the DJ mentioned that a study has been done recently showing that finance and social are the top 2 stressors for a marriage.

This reminded me of what happened yesterday over dinner with my relatives. One of my cousins wanted to go overseas for holiday. In the past, when I was her age (about 17), I would wonder why it was so difficult to ask for an oversea trip.

My parent always mentioned that just work hard so that I could pay for the trip myself.

Now as a husband, I understood that there is more than the working hard.

It involves financially savvy for the family.

Let’s say you bring home $2,000 per month. Your wife takes about $700 for the household expenditure including marketing, buying household items like detergents and washing powder.
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