My Big day is drawing near…so much feelings inside me. Looking back at how much we had prepared, we felt a sign of relief that we had done most of the things we need to do.

What are the other feelings do we have? I’m quite doubtful things will go well on that day. What do I meant by that? I’m talking about culture clash.

My fiancee is from Hong Kong and we do have friends and relatives from Hong Kong. In Singapore’s context, we practice what Singaporean practice. Hong Kong’s wedding custom is high complex, detailed and traditional. There must be exact timings to do certain things such as entering the door, going out of the house and so on. These are minor details.

I’m talking much on how people from Hong Kong will perceive. It will be a culture shock!!!
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It had been 2 months plus and I think blogging is very fun.

Hmmm…seldom you see a guy blogging about his wedding and about his feelings and he has a pink blog. Plus, I have reserached that this is the first Singapore pure wedding blog.

I think it is ok to be true to myself. I love to blog and there is nothing to hide about my feelings. Everybody has good and bad times. It is about how comfortable you want to share and with who. It is considered normal to want to keep the feelings to yourself.

I have readers asking me “ain’t i scared that my darkest secrets about my feelings be revealed?”

I see it from this angle that once I published a post on my feelings especially negative ones like sadness, frustrations, …they will be scattered into a million pieces and I felt lighter and more cheerful. In fact, blogging makes me feel more comfortable and confident. I also feel good when readers send me words of encouragement.

Female readers…

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Two weeks ago, my fiancee and I went to the Bridal Studio to view our wedding photos. The staff in-charged of editing the photos showed us the photos from this desktop computer.

There were various ways of editing:
1) erasing away excess skin
2) making facial features sharper
3) flipping the photos horizontally
4) whitening the teeth
5) elongating the photos to make the couple taller
and so on…

I believe the Adobe Photoshop was used to edit the photos.

It was 7pm and by the time we finished viewing the photos 5 times, it was already 7.45pm. We were not very satisfied with some of the backgrounds. For example, there is this checkered squares background we didn’t really like. We told the guy, a quiet person who hardly said anything, except for “ok”, “can”.

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Sending invitation cards sounds easy….i hand the cards over to the receiver, remind him of the timing and invite him to my wedding…

sounds easy?

what if the receiver is of a older generation and starts asking who else can he invite? and he wants another 1 to 2 tables for his friends. what will you do?

to add on: to push away the idea, the parent reminded that person that the groom’s father had long passed away and it is not necessary to invite that group of guests.

hmmm…what if this statement is said in front of the groom?…not one time…not twice…

but a total of 6 times in a time span of 2 hours…

and i’m the groom.

… … … (silence, my mind is blank, what should I say? what should I reply? Or should I have said anything at all?…)

delievering the wedding invitation cards has been a torturous experience…at least to my soul and mind…i don’t know if i should smile or cry when reminded that my father is not around…

once said is enough…

but …
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It is another few more days nearer to my wedding. As I looked back, I somehow don’t really understand how we coordinated and planned everything needed for our big day.

It ranged from buying of proposal ring, choosing the right bridal studio, selecting the hotels, negotiating with the staff, getting help from cousins and friends, and at the same seeking to understand ourselves better and trying to compromise wth respect to culture and values conflicts.

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