Sending invitation cards sounds easy….i hand the cards over to the receiver, remind him of the timing and invite him to my wedding…

sounds easy?

what if the receiver is of a older generation and starts asking who else can he invite? and he wants another 1 to 2 tables for his friends. what will you do?

to add on: to push away the idea, the parent reminded that person that the groom’s father had long passed away and it is not necessary to invite that group of guests.

hmmm…what if this statement is said in front of the groom?…not one time…not twice…

but a total of 6 times in a time span of 2 hours…

and i’m the groom.

… … … (silence, my mind is blank, what should I say? what should I reply? Or should I have said anything at all?…)

delievering the wedding invitation cards has been a torturous experience…at least to my soul and mind…i don’t know if i should smile or cry when reminded that my father is not around…

once said is enough…

but …

but i heard it 6 times within 2 hours…

would you want to be reminded what you are lacking?…

maybe i smiled…but my heart is weeping….constantly reminded of that my dad is not around…while delivering the cards, i just can’t wait for the process to be over…any longer would have made my eyes teary…

in the traditional apsect, we chinese are one weird group of people. we demanded to be invited personally, meaning the wedding couple personally pays a visit to the invited guests. It is even more crucial if the guests are of older generation.

Why weird? …From our mouth, we said there is no need to come personally…just inform us over the phone…But in the mind, we are delighted to be invited personally…we feel important…we have “face”…

And if no personal inivtation is done, the guests may curse the wedding couples for life…and they may even severe the relationship with the wedding couple and avoid future contact…that is ruthless, isn’t it? But it happens and it is very common among the Chinese community.

My third uncle was nice to be my chaffeur and chaffeured us from the West of Singapore to the East and to the Central. I thank him for being offering his help.

By the end of the 2-hour delivering, I felt grouchy, grumpy and tired. I just want to sleep and just let the happy moments of this wedding preparation sinked into my inner consciousness.

The unhappy ones?….cast far far away…away from me…