There are many reasons why women get married. There are those that are more common while others are more controversial.

I got married because I strongly believe I found my true love and I want my wife to be my life-long partner. It is a commitment made to her to take care of her forever.

I know some friends who got married because it is the right time. (Only the brides can tell us when is the right time.)

In Korea, I know that women get married because they have to. Of course, there are some who found true love. On the other hand, there are some women who are match-made when they reached a certain age. Their parents will arrange their daughters to meet sons of their friends and the story starts from there.

So this is from the social point of view. Women get married because they have reached that stage in life which tells them they have to get married so that they can have a family really soon.

It is the social norm for them to do so because everyone else in their society is doing the same.

From the intra-personal point of view, women get married for many reasons. Some women get married because of sense of security. They want someone to be there to protect them.

Others got married because of fear of loneliness. They are afraid of growing old without someone to spend time with them.
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Couples evolve from couple who are in love to teen couple to wedding couple and finally to married couples and hopefully, they always stay as loving couples till when they are old couple.

Some couples may become hot couples and end up as celebrity couples.

You realise that even during couplehood, there is a passage for them. And of course, there are some who turn out to be flame-extinguished couples.

It is not easy to sustain the flame. As loving couples who are madly in love when they first see each other, the flame is on number 11 in a scale of 1 to 10!

The teen couples are madly and deeply and sometimes, blindly in love.

They eat together, study together or even stay in the hostel together (though it is illegal to do so.)

Every where they go, they are seen as one romantic teen couple and the world seemed to revolve around them.

Likewise for office love affair, it seemed like there is always romance in the air. They are seen working together, lunching together, going to work together and leaving the office together.

Eventually, when the relationship died down, you may end up seeing only one does the routine alone.
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My friend Stuart Tan wrote a post on the relationship between relationship and business.

I always believe that a strong relationship starts at home.

For those men who want to succeed in business, find a good wife who love you and can take good care of your family.

Of course, in return, you have to respect and love your wives even more.

Do look around you at those succesful businessmen. Most, or in not all, have a stable and loving family at home. When they go to work, they are very assured that their families are well-taken care of at home.

What about those with problems at home?

Or let’s look at yourself. How do you feel when you quarreled with your girl-friend or wife and then you go to work?
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How much do you know about the person you have married?

Neither do I know much but it doesn’t stop me from understanding my wife more and more everyday.

Yesterday, I was helping my wife with some paper work and generally I typed faster than I speak.

I also have the eye for details and I can spot any error or typo if there is one.

I do love to read alot and sometimes I give suggestions to my wife to run her group of little monkeys using management strategies that huge Multi National Companies have used.

Hmmm, quite interesting to see that different strategies, once fine-tuned to suit the needs of different environment do work to certain extent.

What I am doing my best to say here is that husband and wife have different strengths, skills and knowledge. Most of the times, the husband may have the solution to the wife’s problem at work and sometimes, the wife can help the husband out with relationship problem with his boss.

Remember ladies always have the magical personal touch.

Thus, husbands may want to seriously “hire” their wives as interpersonal relationship consultant.

Personally, I love coming up with tactics and methods to work around various difficult situations.
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Making wedding works is more than preparing the wedding tasks and fulfilling them.

It is going to be tiring and frustrating!!! Very frustrating!!!

Wedding-related tasks include getting the bridal studio, contacting hotels, calling and making appointment with the wedding photographers, food tasting and many more.

These tasks are simple to do. The hardest part is how to get your soon-to-be spouse to remain supportive all the way. And not just till the wedding.

There is still a very long way to go.

I have always told brides and grooms that the mini-quarrels they have during their wedding preparation is just the tip of the iceberg and it is normal to have disagreement once in a while.

More will come along the way and in bigger quality and quantity!!!

My wife and I do have conflicts too and this is absolutely normal.

Couples who tell me over the tele-consultation that they have never argued before in their lives are abnormal.

Why having conflicts while preparing wedding is healthy?
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