I was taking the subway a moment ago and saw a public display of intense affection.

Notice I use the word “intense”.

The boyfriend was hugging the girlfriend so tightly from behind, literally smelling her and groping her breasts in the midst of a crowd.

They were too busy till they didn’t notice at least twenty pairs of eyes were on them.

Oh my, free RA (Restricted Artistic) show to watch!

In Singapore, there was a big news earlier this year or the last (I can’t remember) when a student couple from a local polytechnic started the circulation of the video named Tammy. In fact, I think that was her name.

A short video of them having hot sex was circulated controllably like bushfire starting from within the school compound to the whole of internet world. They were filming themselves having sex in a room and the amateur video was done using their mobile phone.

When lovers are blinded by relationship, this is one of the common things that may happen.

It really amazed me how wildly and blindly in love can today teens be in and they can do anything, almost anything to express their love for each other.

I know of this common tag line by boyfriends on their girlfriends “If you don’t want to have sex with me means you don’t love me.”

This is when the avalanche of problems set in. Parent is in fact the best person to educate her daughters to respect their bodies. And if the guys love them, they will wait for you no matter what.

On the contrary when the relationship starts to fall apart, women as well as men can do really hurting stuff just to kill and exterminate each other from the surface of the earth.
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Men and women are not alike. Men will never understand why women talk so much and can feel so much. And women will never understand what is in a man’s brain. (Not necessarily sex all the time.)

However, there is a similarity between men and women. (Thank God there is some way to talk sense into women somehow.)

The similarity is something each of us wants and really wish for. Do remember this after your wedding.

Do you know what it is?

It is called “respect”.

Each of us wants to be treated with dignity. We don’t want to be spat at and neither do we want our esteem to be tattered.

All of us want to be treated with the utmost respect.

And so do you, be it you are a man or woman reading this post.

After posting this post, a reader emailed me that “wow, you can read a person inside out and won’t it be scary? Aren’t you manipulating other people’s feelings too?”

I don’t think so. Neither do I see as a manipulation of feelings. I prefer to see it as a conscious effort to place my spouse’ position in all discussion.

As the cliche says, put yourself in other people’s shoes. It is very true indeed.

Those couples who are not conscious about what they say and not say (their non-verbal) are actually doing more harm.

Let’s say you may be unaware that you are infact rebellious even though people see you as soft and easy-going. Part of your nature may be ready to retaliate, possibly because at home you never had the chance to in front of your authoritarian parents.

So one day, your wife said something in a similar stern tone as what your dad did in the past to you as a little girl. Something in you is triggered and you barked them without hesistation and stormed off.
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It is not every woman out there wants to get married and walk down the aisle on her wedding day. There are some possible reasons I can think of why some women just refuse to get married.

37 Reasons Why Women Won’t Want to Get Married
1. She finds that all men are jerks
2. She is financially stable and can support herself
3. She has yet to find a suitable life-long partner
4. She wants to excel in her career
5. She hasn’t found one that resembles her dad
6. She has not found her prince charming – the exact one mom told her during bedtime stories when she was younger
7. She was traumatised by men before possible is a rape victim
8. She has low self-esteem
9. She never wants to date
10. She is too shy to look at any man in the eyes
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“Life is boring.” most couples would say.

“There is nothing else to do.”

I personally believe there is so much things you and your husband can do together everyday.

1. Unwind Together
For a start, after a busy day at work, you and your dear can sit together over a cup of Earl grey and update each other about the days’ happenings.

Do allocate some time to share and hear from both parties so that both husband and wife have equal amount of time to share and unload their emotional barges.

We won’t want so much of over-talking from only one party, leaving no chance for the other to unwind at all.

2. Sleep Together
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I think it is only just to analyse why men want to get married too after I have done a post why women got married.

37 Reasons why Men Get Married:
1. To have a life-long partner
2. He has found his true love
3. It is the right time to get married
4. He is getting old
5. He has a big house and he is alone
6. He has kids from his ex-wife and has no one to help
7. He needs a free life-long domestic helper
8. He has too much money and time
9. He is sick of his previous wife or wives (In olden days, Chinese Emperors do this alot.)
10. Religiously, they can, just like the Arabs.
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