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Marriage is a bliss. Everyone says that.

Commercials about weddings make them look so magical and care-free.

Weddings lead to a life of eternal happiness and romance.

Is it true for you?

For me, it is not true.

I am not saying I don’t like wedding. I love wedding and especially mine.

I love my wife too and everyday I told myself, “I can lose everything that I have but not her. I only have one her.”

Before my marriage, I was a carefree guy, in the sense that I can plan for my life and my finance.

But what happen after my wedding?
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Dating has always been part of the entire courtship experience.

What happens when you see this handsome guy across the hall?

He saw you too and walked up to you. You don’t know why but your heart was pounding faster and faster.

Both of you chatted for a short while and he asked for a date.

Do you say “yes”?
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One year after my wedding, I finally have time to meet up with some friends on Saturday night and it was a good catch up.

Two of us, including myself are married and we no doubt agree that our roles have been changing over time. And they still are.

Before marriage, we were bachelors always working for ourselves and we had the freedom to plan our daily schedule. We just have to work to bring in monthly income both for ourselves and our parents, at least for me.

I recalled while planning our wedding, it was not easy. I somehow felt the stretch in me, at least financially.

Finance was my biggest worry then and it still is.

Wedding took up most of my savings and drove my saving account to below zero mark. Luckily, my loving mother was helping me pay at least half of the bills and I still owe her the money.

After marriage, we have so much to plan for and these are the ones.
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I came across this interesting topic in a bridal forum: why do men change after marriage?

No, no, no. Men don’t change after marriage.

It is our perception that was changed.

Let me ask you a question.

Before marriage, have you ever lived with your men 24 hours a day for a few days at least or even up to a week.

I don’t think so.

Couples spent really short time before marriage and that is why they present the best side of themselves in front of each other.

They won’t fart. Neither will they dig their nose or burp out loud.

It is only after marriage that they may start doing such things.

Some brides described their men as “all hell broke loose” in them after marriage. They just let it all out after they have officially become husband and wife.

I know some brides even described it as their men change on the first night after marriage

Before marriage, there is just this physical attraction. You may know your partner significantly well but not good enough to know his dark side, if not his ugliest side.

After every wedding comes a marriage. With marriage, couples need to learn another set of soft skills like giving respect and managing expectations to sustain their marriage.

Personally I feel that respect after marriage is very important. If the couples are normal human beings, they don’t change much after marriage.

Yes! Life after marriage is going to be evry different, whether you like it or not.
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I always hear from my friends that they are always very busy with their work.

All of us have the same amount of time per day and some can do more while others can do less.

I seriously think that it is the issue of time management that determine if a person has “enough” time for himself.

I believe that work is a very common excuse that all of us use during some of the times.

When we can’t go for some gathering, we will use work as a reason.

“Oh, I have so much work to do. Maybe next time.”

I can really empathise with those who truly have alot of work to do.

However, I would like to remind ourselves that the amount of work we can have is endless.

It is never-ending. However, the time we can have with our wife is unpredictable.

It may be a few tens of years or even just a few months or days.

We can never tell. No one can.

Can you?
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