Marriage is a process of many ups and downs.

It is never like what some of the medias portray as a smooth and comfortable bed of roses.

from graphicobsession.com

If a couple tells you that they never have any disagreement or conflict, they are lying.

Nowadays, there are many ways to seek advice or opinions when someone bump into a wall in his or her relationship.

One of the common ways is confiding in a trusted friend.

Remember the last time you have a problem and you could have confided in either your colleagues or your buddies.

However, such move is dangerous as untrained friends may start giving you advice and they want you to do this or that, thinking that the solutions they provide are fool-proof.

In actual fact, friends are most likely talking from their perspective and they may not necessarily fully understand what situations you are in.

In addition, you may just be seeking a listening ear rather than a solution.

Have you felt even more at loss after telling a friend your problem and all he does is tell you “not to worry” or “don’t think about it”?

The second way of looking for an answer is turn to God of your own religion. Some people just pray or they prefer to sit alone in a church or chapel to have some quiet moments. Others meditate.

The third way is to call a helpine offered in your country. There may be helplines for distressed couples or unhappy bride or groom. Helplines are manned by professional social workers or trained volunteers who will have more skills and knowledge to address the different issues that couples have. This is one of the highly recommended ways to seek an answer.
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There is a saying that distance only makes the heart grow fonder.

from cursor.org

When two people got separated in the sense of being physically further, there is less intrusion into each other’s personal space.

These two people may be parent and child, husband and wife, boyfriend and girlfriend and even siblings. The list is endless.

Everyone needs personal space to function properly. There are times I need time to read my book while sipping from a cup of orange juice in a quiet cafe. At other times, I go for a swim by myself.

I encourage my wife to take up hobbies which she had wanted to take up all along. Sometimes, she may go shopping on her own.

What about you?

I’m sure there are times you may just want to take a nap and rest alone. At other times, you may just want some quiet moments being alone in order to clear your thoughts.

We all have personal spaces. It is just a matter if we are conscious about how much space we need and when we need them.

Lately, it was our first time of being in different places after marriage. My wife had to go overseas to work for a few days and I was busy in my camp running activities for the children.
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I think there is no escape from the chore of choosing a wedding photographer.

from LetThereBeLight.com.sg

Before my wedding, I dreaded meeting new people. I can’t imagine talking and negotiating with new faces I have never met before and pretending to be friendly towards them.

In society, we wear different faces. You may be a loud person who needs to network with strangers due to your work nature. Maybe you are a Public Relation Officer. However, you may eb a quiet and reserved person when you are alone.

During my wedding preparation last year, I think I have broken my own record of times I negotiated. I had to talk to differen wedding service providers ranging from employers of bridal studios, banquet managers to photographers.

Personally, I think part of me also like to make new friends and thus, it is not 100% torturing.

When selecting a wedding photographer, it is important that you need to personally talk to the photographer.

Lately, I had this email from a bride who almost fainted when the photographer-cum-hubby’s friend over pormised and under delivered. Initially due to tight budget, this bride made do with a semi-professional photographer whom her hubby recommended.
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Happy are they who are newly married. How can they continue to let the fire sizzle? Are there any ways they can turn the temperature higher as they count the days towards their anniversary?

from affichescinema.com

Some say newly weds don?t need these tips since love and romance are at an all-time high. Yet, we can?t ignore a fact that many couples are also experiencing a dip in their passion from the toil of having to fit into each other?s lifestyle, especially for those who have a wide gap in their living habits.

So for those who find themselves already sweating, it?s time to put the exasperation aside and relive the romance like a newly wed should to let love and marriage last!

5 Tips to a Romantic and Happy Marriage for Newly Weds

1. Take turns to make breakfast for each other at least once a week.

2. Stare into each other?s eyes lovingly, like a doe-eyed puppy. Do this for at least 5 minutes, thrice a week.

3. Take turns to give each other a 10-minute foot massage every other day.

4. Plan to have a fantastic and special night of intimacy once a week. Satisfy each other based on what they like in that night. No disturbances are allowed.

5. Relive dating! Go out and have fun, like the way you did before you were married. Do not go home until you?re both tired out, but extremely happy.

This post is contributed by Love Coach Kloudiia and you can read more about her at kloudiia.com

With globalisation being a common word in our daily conversation, stories of weddings couples being separated by force are getting very common too.

from tribuneindia.com

I am talking about globalisation and its impact on wedding couples.

I remember one of my friends who used to wake up everyday at 6am in the morning so that she could chat with her boyfriend who was in the States at that time and the time difference was 12 hours apart.

A bride shared with me that her wedding had to be postponed because her husband-to-be had to work in the Middle East for 6 months because of his work obligation.

Another story that I heard was that the wedding got cancelled because the couples couldn’t come to an agreement about migrating to another country due to the husband’s job transfer to another country.
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