According to Chinese Wedding custom, a pair of Chinese candles have to be placed by the newly-wed bed.

from wrapables.com

The candles symbolise a long, enlightened life for the couple.

The candles can be replaced with bedside lamps. As time changes, such lamps have been replaced with battery-operated lamps with modernised motifs, scented candles and even votive lamps.

Personally, I feel such Chinese beliefs of having physical items to bring blessings to the marriage life can only means as much what it meant.

Meaning that, if newly-wed couples want a long, enlightened life for themselves, they have to work hard, no less than how much work they had placed into planning their wedding.

So how can newly-wed couples have a long, enlightened marriage life?

There are a few things you can do:
1. Both of you could take turns to join courses of their interests.

Let’s say the wife likes bakery class but the husband doesn’t. They may want to take part in the first year of their marriage. Then, they can join wushu class that the husband has interest. The cycle repeats again in the following year.

2. Weekly dating must carry on.

Set aside a day completely just the two of you. Go out to catch a movie or have a meal at your favourite restaurant. It doesn’t matter what both of you do. What matter most is do it together.

3. Take some time out of eac day to hear about each other’s day.

There is so much happening each day of our lives and we want to share with our love ones. The stories may not always end with happy endings. That is not realistic.
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I want to delegate this post to “My Wedding Blog” readers.

I want to thank all of you for your support and I hope “My Wedding Blog” has benefitted not just in your wedding planning, but also in relationship and marriage.

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Relationship is interestingly funny, in the sense there is hundred and one way to start a relationship.

To have a strong foundation in your after-wedding life, we need to start off from how the relationship is formed in the first place.

A friend was kind enough to share with me that how her brother-in-law started off as her tutor.

Others mentioned they started off when they were in the same faculty in colleges or Universities.

from motorcycletime.com

In fact, hostel stays in Universities had allowed infinite opportunities for opposite genders to spark off their romance.

Last year, I attended 9 wedding dinners in all (including solemnisation).

Many of my friends who got married last year started off as acquantainces in hostels. They started to meet in groups for meals in the hostel’s canteens and the group size gradually dwindled to a size of two.

Freedom, lots of it, is available in hostels without mom and dad watching over and this gave them freedom to plan their nights out and return hall late.

In fact, from what I understood the alternate floor stay for different gender was done on purpose for the obvious reason.

Hmmm, what about those who don’t stay in hostels?
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I have difficulty searching for really nice pictures from the internet. As I was browsing through the websites, I was really amazed by how many different kind of hairstyles available for ladies.

My focus here is Asian women as most of my readers are from Asia.

from celebrityseduhairstyle.com

I learnt from my wife that the latest fad is always in Hong Kong and Taiwan. Singapore’s fashion and style lag behind by a season or two.

I am really shocked when crowds of women thronged the shopping floor during sales season, only to realise what they were purchasing are junks that other countries won’t want.

Anyway, ladies still sweep the shops clean while their boyfriends or husbands lined the entrance like part-time security guards for the shops.

Back to hairstyle, I am now convinced that men should take interest into what women like. Not all women, but at least what your girlfriend or wife like.

To understand them one layer deeper, men should also know what they dislikes or love.

I was watching this Chinese drama on TV 8 and it was about the difference between men and women.

It says that “if women understand a man, they can understand all. But not the other way round.”

Women are complex beings with mood swings far more unpredictable than the most fickle weather. What they like may become to what they hate most.

Interestingly, fashion sense changes according to their lifespan and stage growth.

I personally feel that the clothings that women wear, no matter how revealing or fully cladded, must magnify the personality of the wearer many times over. Don’t wear something just because your friends are wearing them.
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Hair-do is the key essential to a lady’s image. And that is why they spent hundred of dollars every a month or two to give themselves a new look.

from artofstu.com

I am really fascinated by the different hairstyle I am seeing and how hair styles move and evolve with fashion trends.

In any case, I also realised trends do revert to those of olden days with new add-on ideas.

When a man got married, there must be many embracing of lady’s culture.

Be encouraging when she decided to cut her hair short and have a new look.

Be assuring when she couldn’t fit into a dress she bought many years ago.

Be patient when she was mesmerised by the sales in shops that sell anything from dresses to shoes to jewellery.

When a man and a woman stay together, there bound to be clashed in values, beliefs, practices from the past twenty or thirty years before marriage.

Do give each other space to adjust to the new environment as well as physical space for your wife’s old clothes plus future new clothes.
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