To me, marriage is like a little seed. If you want to nurture it into a strong tree, there must be care and love given everyday.

Many times, such acts of love disappeared after the wedding day.

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I was crossing the road one day and I saw an old man in his seventies, holding his wife’s hands tightly. They were walking very slowly and were struggling to cross the road. However, I saw from the old man’s face, he was determined to ensure his wife was safe by holding her close to him.

His wife was in her seventies too.

At that point in time, I realised the power of love and had the belief that love can be sustained even till death do couples part.

It is not easy to maintain relationship. No one said it is. Even mother-daughter relationship has its ups and downs all the times. So does marriage.

In fact, to make sure our relationship grows into a strong and lasting one, acts of shower of love must be done on everyday basis.

There is no need to splurge lavish gifts on the woman of your life. All you need to do is to take note what matters to her.
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I have heard from a friend that her wedding has been postponed. It is very sad indeed to hear the news from her.

There were a few exchange of emails and I learnt from her that she is a strong lady.

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Postponement of weddings could arise from many factors.

One of the reasons could be that either the groom or bride has to continue working due to some very important project. They may need to fly off to another country just to seal some multi-million deals with some multi-national companies.

In summary, they are indispensable and their companies need them.

Another reason that I have come across is that either one party has second doubt about committment to the marriage and want more time to think about it.

The third reason that I could think of is either one of the parties could have met with an accident or is unfit for the commencement of the weddings.

Personally, I feel it is really painful for the wedding couples to come to a common consensus to postpone their weddings. It is not an easy decision to make together.
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Some brides have emailed me their biggest headaches during wedding planning.

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The number one anxiety brides may have is the doubt if they have married the right man.

Marrying the right guy determines the happiness of the ladies forever in their marriage life.

You know it is just like taking the wrong move may throw you deep down into well and sealing the well later.

Happiness is very subjective. Money can make some women really happy. Others used benchmarks such as career success and relationships with their spouses.

There was a survey done to find out what type of men women want as their life-long partners.
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Wedding gift is a must. Giving the gift represents appreciation to your partner.

I gave my wife many wedding gifts during the wedding day,

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I made those gifts for her.

I generated the ideas a few days before the wedding day and completed the wind charm on the eve of wedding day.

There are many other gifts you can make.

You can write a card telling how much you love your partner and thanking him or her for coming into your life.

You can give her another diamond ring but again not all women like this idea as it is too common.

You can DIY most of the wedding gifts. DIY makes your wedding gifts special, unique and one of a kind.
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Marriage is a life long journey and if marriage is a Ph.D course, you will only get your report card on the last day of your life on this world.

Marriage is a life-long journey. There is no right or wrong. There is no textbook that teaches you what an ideal marriage life is.

Everybody’s marriage differs. So do yours and mine.

I know some couples who are getting married signed up for marriage preparation course. They learn about experiences from the teachers, other couples plus some powerpoint slides showing the number of things they have to do if they want their marriage to work out.

Yes, marriage preparation can give the couples some basic insights of what marriage is about. However, some of my friends who attended them said it was a complete waste of time.

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In fact, for me, the routine in a marriage is more important and effective than just attending a few sessions of a marriage preparation course.

Everyday is going to be stressful for the husband and wife, especially nowadays both are working adults.

When couples returned home, they bound to want to unload their stress on each other. The purpose again is not to find a solution but just to seek a listening ear.

What has been helpful for us is me and wife will go for a 1-hour walk around our house just before we sleep. The night is quiet and peaceful and it certainly is the best time to share with each other’s daily events.
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