How do you embrace your wife wholly after your wedding?

Do you judge her for every fault she has commited or every weakness she has displayed?

Or do you choose to close one eye and only see the beautiful side of her?

I choose to embrace her wholly and I am still learning.

It is not easy to be fully non-judgemental. We are all human afterall.

All of us have these tinted lens that we used to see people around us and even ourselves.

I have this big piece of paper pasted on the wall, somewhere I can see it everyday and be reminded of it.
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It has been quite a while. My Wedding Blog has taken many steps, some tough and challenging, to have arrived to where it is today.

Wedding Blogging has been my life. It is my life.

It is not easy to go through life. Likewise for sustaining a wedding blog.

It is just as hard to sustain a marriage and making it stabilise.

When you are doing something good for people, there will be people who like it and people who hate it.

For those who love it, they send you thank you emails, letting you know their weddings were a success because of the help this blog has given.

For those who find it too commercialised, they may forget that sustaining a wedding blog needs support too, readers support as well as financial support.

Nothing comes free. Bus transport isn’t free. Postal service isn’t free. Likewise, surfing the net right now isn’t free because you have to pay for the computer, the internet access and the electricity.

A wedding blog isn’t free. A domain name is about US$10 per year, email support is about US$20 per month, the webhosting is about US$20 per month, the broadband subscription and other miscellaneous is about US$20 per month.

Not forgetting the tons of bridal magazines and wedding planning guidebooks I am reading to make me ready to answer most of the brides’ questions which I get about ten per day.

A wedding blog needs money to support it. Just like marriage, it can’t be sustained based on pure love.

Try having a wedding and building a marriage without money. And see what happens.
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Planning wedding can lead to cancellation, break up or even suicide. Sounds scary isn’t it?

Why is it that the supposedly happiest moment of our times can turn out to be in this way?

Actually, many things can happen during the planning process.

When bride and groom are put on the firing line which makes or even forces them to commit to each other, we called it putting them out of their comfort zone.

Being out of the comfort zone makes people feel uncomfortable. It challenges their capabilities, beliefs and level of commitment.

If a guy says he is committed to the bride, does he just say it because he wants her to accept the wedding ring or does he say it because he truly means it?

If a bride says that she believes in the groom and will go through good or bad times, is she just repeating what the minister is saying or is she ready to swim through the deepest ocean with him?
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It was tough to juggle time between work, friends and family.

It was not easy to manage the very limited time that we have. Each of us only have 24 hours per day.

Yesterday, I made a special trip to support a very good friend of mine who was holding an art exhibition for her oil paintings. She was in fact selling her paintings for charity and the oil paintings do not come cheap.

The price range was around S$400 to $600.

Other friends and I specially went to the art exhibition venue just to support her and we all skipped our lunch so that we could be on time.

Her oil painting was really fantastic and we kept on priaising that she did an excellent work.
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Now is 12.25am and I have just returned from the hospital. This could be a heavy post, a very heavy one indeed.

My grandma had suffered a stroke and it was out of sudden. In fact, I’m not really what I meant by “sudden”.

from yenra.net

Does it mean that it is sudden to the family members or the development to a full-blown stroke is sudden?

Neither can she open her eyes nor move her limps. Her eyes were totally shut. As she struggled for words or even make a sound, her saliva slipped from the corner of her lips.

I held onto her hands and massaged them, only to realise the grip was so strong that I have to use some force to pry her fingers open in order to release my fingers from hers.

I believe the development of her condition was gradual.

She was still well on last Sunday when she attended my cousin’s wedding.

News came out of sudden and I’m not even prepared, not even now.

Ageing is part of life. Death comes together as a package. Some of the deaths came sudden, others came expected.

Actually right now, my mind is confused. And I have no idea what to blog about. I just want to use this post to express my feelings and thoughts.
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