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I remember a friend told me that getting married is easy. But making your marriage works is even harder.

He is a proud father of 3 daughters, age 10, 12 and 16 and he has a lovely wife.

Many times, I am wondering how many children do we have in our new family.

Having planned our wedding and our nice honeymoon, we are now in debt. I think in Singapore, many couples are. Maybe 8 out of 10.

There are different types of debts, be it you loan your money from the bank or from your parents or from friends.

There are the lucky few who got their weddings fully sponsored by their parents.

Are they really lucky?
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My mind was rather heavy this few days especially having attended a funeral.

One of my colleague’s husband passed away and it was rather sudden.

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One year after my wedding, I finally have time to meet up with some friends on Saturday night and it was a good catch up.

Two of us, including myself are married and we no doubt agree that our roles have been changing over time. And they still are.

Before marriage, we were bachelors always working for ourselves and we had the freedom to plan our daily schedule. We just have to work to bring in monthly income both for ourselves and our parents, at least for me.

I recalled while planning our wedding, it was not easy. I somehow felt the stretch in me, at least financially.

Finance was my biggest worry then and it still is.

Wedding took up most of my savings and drove my saving account to below zero mark. Luckily, my loving mother was helping me pay at least half of the bills and I still owe her the money.

After marriage, we have so much to plan for and these are the ones.
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I came across this interesting topic in a bridal forum: why do men change after marriage?

No, no, no. Men don’t change after marriage.

It is our perception that was changed.

Let me ask you a question.

Before marriage, have you ever lived with your men 24 hours a day for a few days at least or even up to a week.

I don’t think so.

Couples spent really short time before marriage and that is why they present the best side of themselves in front of each other.

They won’t fart. Neither will they dig their nose or burp out loud.

It is only after marriage that they may start doing such things.

Some brides described their men as “all hell broke loose” in them after marriage. They just let it all out after they have officially become husband and wife.

I know some brides even described it as their men change on the first night after marriage

Before marriage, there is just this physical attraction. You may know your partner significantly well but not good enough to know his dark side, if not his ugliest side.

After every wedding comes a marriage. With marriage, couples need to learn another set of soft skills like giving respect and managing expectations to sustain their marriage.

Personally I feel that respect after marriage is very important. If the couples are normal human beings, they don’t change much after marriage.

Yes! Life after marriage is going to be evry different, whether you like it or not.
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My life at this moment, seemed to be going through a valley.

There are uphills and downhills. And there are 100 times more downhills than uphills.

Determined to do whatever it takes to provide a life slightly better for my wife and my mother, I have embarked on building my own business ever since last year 2006.

A year of blogging on wedding and 6 months of “wedding planning e-book” creation are certainly not easy to be jungled.

Yes, I have a full time job. And when I got home daily, I spent at least 6 hours on building my business.

So each day, I worked at least 18 hours.

It was not easy to move through the swamp of obstacles that have been laid in front of me.
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