Many people are still asking me how is life after marriage…

I remembered on last Saturday, one of my friends asked me to join them for dinner..

I replied..”sorry..I can’t…I have promised to have dinner with my family…>.<" for me..after and before married life arel the same...but with extra commitment...responsibility... Commitment to wash the dishes as what I had promised her...but she brings out the dishes to the dining table... Commitment to set aside one day of the week to go out for a walk...no matter how busy we are... Commitment to spend 1 hour everyday to do sports or simply go for a walk no matter how busy or tired we are after work...after walking...we feel more stress-free... To me, responsibility means to hear my wife out...doesn't matter if they are grumbles...worries...word of concerns...her fears...(likewise for her, she hears me out no matter how busy she is) Responsibility to empower her...to tell her she has done her best and I will support her no matter what decision she makes... Responsibility to take good care of her...to kiss her every night before sleep...to tell her "I love you" everyday...to cuddle her...and to make sure she feels safe and protected...

The reception area was filled with laughters and joy. (while in the ballroom, a slideshow of our Bridal photoshoots was presented.)

We were the stars of the night…a once-a-lifetime experience..a moment that we will remember we are once a star…

guests were queuing up to catch a moment with the bride and to take a photo…

everybody was asking for the bride…”where is she?”

We were very excited and nervous…oh my….it was like preparing for a stage performance when thousands of onlookers looked at you…and you are the only one performing…our hands were cold and our facial muslces stiffened…but we whispered encouraging words into each other’s ears…”relax…you look great/ handsome/ very beautiful!”

adrenalin rushed through my body…happy adrenalin for happy occasion…

It was already 2pm and we made our way to the bride’s house for another session of tea-ceremony.

Likewise, tea was offered to parents and relatives with desceding seniority.

Then, after that, we had another group photo-taking session with the bride in kua and later, we made our way to the hotel for the wedding dinner…>.< by this time, we were already quite tired...>.<

I were experiencing a mixture of feelings at this point in time…sadness…anxiety…gladness…

sad that a great artist could no longer draw and share his wonderful art pieces with the world…

anxious as in unsure how my colleague will be feeling when sending off her rbother for the final time…

glad that there won’t be any more suffering for this noble person…

my colleague’s brother had some illness and three days ago, there were a relapse and he left the same night…

it reminded me of how my father passed away 12 years ago due to lung cancer and he got a brain tumor growing behind his right eye on the day he died…

as much as we wanted him to go peacefully so that he no longer need to suffer, I long for me to be with me…to see me graduate…to see me get married…to be there for me during my greatest lfie transitions…

I can’t forget…as my llife unfolds, I have to remember him …vividly in my mind….reminding myself how much I have missed him…

no one knew I teared a couple of times when I remembered my dad on our wedding day

Sudden death had constantly reminded me of the fragility of life…as much as we want to live to the full life expectancy, who can guarantee it?

All I can do right now…is to llive a full life as if it is my last day of my death…cos no one can know what will happen tomorrow. can you?

He drew well but won’t be able to from now on.

Though I had only seen him once or twice from a distance, the image of the hummingbird that he drew seemed to be so close…just as if in front of my eyes.

An amicable, creative and talented young man I must say.

And I have no idea why such great man is taken away by God from his very dear family members?

This morning when I woke up, I received a sms from my colleague that the younger brother of another colleague had passed away yesterday night.

It was a shock that things seem to happen so quickly, suddenly and without warning.
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