Men are from Mars and women are from Venus. How true this statement is?

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Men and women worry about different wedding related things. Their wedding related stress is different most of the times even though some matters may overlap.

I remembered when I was planning my wedding, I was worried about money. My parent was nice enough to lend me some to tide over bad times.

My advice is if you don’t have money, don’t get married yet. Bills just come pouring in and being the guy, I would need to fork out most of the money.

Even though we are living in a different era when men and women are supposed to be equal, my practice is that men should pay more of the wedding expenses, if not all.

What else does a guy worry about?

A guy may worry about if the wedding plans go as planned. However, it seemed to me that most of my lady friends were planning their weddings while their husbands-to-be sat back and relaxed.

I remembered a very real story from my friend that her boyfriend specifically told her he won’t be with her during gown-fitting because it was draggy and a complete waste of his time.

At this point in time, I believe her worry was if she was marrying the right man!

Ladies’ other worries may be if there can be harmony between her and her parent-in-laws.

Alot of time we never really know until we lived together under the same roof top. A lady friend of mine couldn’t even stand a week staying with her in-laws after her wedding and decided to move out after that. Reason was unknown.

Sometimes, the main source of stress can come from the brides’ parents. One excellent example is her mother wants to play her role in planning the wedding for her daughter.
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It is a very controversial topic and many people, especially after their weddings, have different opinions on this.

Are Singaporean guy romantic?

from kafwang.com

In fact, there are some male friends of mine who are.

I remembered a male friend of mine deployed 10 of his friends to make a heart using fire sprinklers at a beach. The size was about half of a basketball court. It was their second year into their relationship.

Another male friend of mine sprinkled rose petals in a hotel room during Valentine’s Day and lined the petals from the middle of the bed to the door.

The third male friend of mine inflated tens of heart-shaped balloons using helium gas and filled his car’s boot with them. He blindfolded his girlfriend and led her to open the boot by herself and the amzing sight was when all the balloons flew up.

Of course again, these special acts are done during special days such as wedding anniversaries, birthdays, Valentine’s Days and even wedding proposals.

What about normal days, especially after their wedding?

Many of my female friends complained that reality set in once after their weddings ended and their husbands cut down the surprises and gifts for them.

For a moment, they realised they were getting more before their weddings.

I heard that from a lady that her husband was absolutely not a romantic man who doesn’t even cooked instant noodle for her. Thus, she could only wish her husband do romantic things only when she sleeps.

Others grumbled that they never receive a paper aeroplane from their husbands and getting paper cranes from them can only be a dream.
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Have you ever realised that once after marriage, your tolerance towards your spouse’s flaws dropped drastically?

from plan4divorce.co.uk

I think it is a common phenomenon among married couples after their big wedding day. They find faults so much easier in their marriage life compared to their courtship life.

In courtship days, things are still so much magical, pleasant and the reality of life had not set in yet. Couples only come to realise that their partners, being so human, only have flaws that normal humans do have.

I have to admit that I am guilty of doing this too and admiting it doens’t mean I’m wrong. We all make mistakes and it is only scary when couples claim that their relationship is forever conflict and argument free.

It is even worse when they say they never took each other for granted before.

There are alot of times our expectations towards each other elevated over the years and we easily get grumpy when the hidden expectations on our spouses are not met.

This is a trap and third parties become so much attractive.

There is a saying that marriage is not ruined because of third party. Marriage is already going downhill and that is when third party comes in.

So let’s see what we can do not to take our spouses for granted.
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Holiday is a big break to look forward to, especially we have planned for it for so long.

from vietvoyage.com

It is a reward we give to ourselves for working really hard for the past few months and it is something we tell ourselves we deserve it.

Taking a holiday is also a time for us to disconnect from our daily routine and an escape from our stress in work or from home.

We feel married couples should take a break to make a getaway. It does not really matter if it is a short one lasting for a few days or a very long one that may ast for a few weeks to a month.

My parent has always told me to plan an oversea trip once a year to see the world and not be confined like a frog in a well. There are far more things to be explored beyond the edge of the well.

So what does it takes to plan for a holiday with your spouse?

Agreement to a Common Destination:

It is not as easy as it sounds. It takes weeks of discussion to come to a common consensus where your next trip will be. Husband and wife will have different opinions based on different perceptions and beliefs.
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Dear all,

Now Im back in my hometown. Now Im sorting out my photos I took in Vietnam and will most probably be posting tonight.

Had to get adjusted back to Singapore’s life again.

Meanwhile, see you tonight. 🙂