There are many reasons why a wedding is cancelled and these are some of them.
1. Disapproval by parents
2. Unable to commit by husband
3. Uncertainity of bride
4. Insufficient finance
5. Unable to stand either party
6. Can’t tolerate husband’s weird habits
7. Unable to come to a compromise in choice of wedding theme
8. Groom can’t be bothered about helping in weddding tasks
9. Death of the groom
10. Bride met up with an accident
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I received a bad news today from one of the brides who broke up before their wedding.
Sometimes, I wonder is it a good news or not that break up does happen before the actual wedding ceremony.
It saddened me alot to hear the news as this bride had been actively planning her wedding for the past 9 months. I have been liaising with her through emails, giving her support through phone calls and she shared with me how excited she is about her own wedding.
However, the husband-to-be wasn’t very active in planning and giving her support. From the interpretation of the frustration she shared with me, it seemed that her fiance couldn’t really be bothered about his wedding.
It doesn’t look good.
Wedding planning may at most last for a year or two. Marriage lasts for an eternity.
The success of it is dependant on the proportion of effort and committment put in by the wedding couples.
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Here are my 37 Ways to Live With Your Spouse Daily: (I will be compiling this list to 101.)
1. Kiss each other good morning
2. Make breakfast for her
3. Close the door if she is still sleeping so as not to disturb her
4. Go for morning breakfast together
5. Go for a morning jog
6. Read the morning newspapers together
7. Plan the day’s activities together
8. Do house chores together
9. Let the husband sweep the floor while the wife mobs the floor
10. Make the bed together
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Some of us have fantastic mother-in-laws from heaven while others come from hell. As a daughter-in-law, (or son-in-law), you will need to be strategic in your management.
Sometimes, it feels sucky to be squeezed in the middle and feeling helpess.
Here are my 37 Ways to Deal with Mother-in-law: (I will be compiling this list to 101.)
1. Be respectful to her
2. Be polite when talking to her
3. Be sensitive to her different needs
4. Be sensitive to her emotional changes (she may be going through menopause)
5. Be aware of her sense of loss of a daughter
6. Bring her out once in two weeks
7. Take her to her favourite restuarant
8. Remember her birthday
9. Send her gifts that she really like
10. Remember her wedding annivesary
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Do you have a difficult time getting along with your partner’s parents? You’re not alone. Find out why your in-laws act the way they do and learn to gracefully manage stressful family situations.
As husband and wife, you’ve decided to host a big dinner at your house. All of the family will be there, and you’re excited to show off the kids and spend time with those you love. That is until your mother-in-law enters the room. From the moment her foot crosses the threshold, she’s all criticism. “I wouldn’t have picked this carpet,” she may say. Or, “The chicken is a little dry, dear.” Meanwhile, a smile is on her face, and you have to grin and bear it.
This sort of thing happens to people regardless of how long they’ve been married. A mother-in-law can be so intrusive and bossy that you just don’t know what to do with yourself. You don’t want to be disrespectful, yet you can’t tolerate being walked on, either. It’s a nasty predicament, but it may help to learn that there are reasons for your mother-in-law’s stereotypical behavior and ways to gracefully maneuver through difficult in-law situations.
Why Your Mother-In-Law Does What She Does
Older relatives frequently take on an authoritative role in the family. “The friction and tensions with know-it-all mothers-in-law come from a parent’s belief that no one is quite good enough for her son or daughter,” says Dr. Susan Newman, PhD, social psychologist and author of The Book of No: 250 Ways to Say It?and Mean It and Stop People-Pleasing Forever.
This tension, most typically felt between women and their mothers-in-law rather than between men and theirs, occurs because these are “two women in love with the same man,” according to Debbie Mandel, author of Turn On Your Inner Light: Fitness for Body, Mind and Soul and Changing Habits: The Caregivers’ Total Workout.
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