How do you embrace your wife wholly after your wedding?

Do you judge her for every fault she has commited or every weakness she has displayed?

Or do you choose to close one eye and only see the beautiful side of her?

I choose to embrace her wholly and I am still learning.

It is not easy to be fully non-judgemental. We are all human afterall.

All of us have these tinted lens that we used to see people around us and even ourselves.

I have this big piece of paper pasted on the wall, somewhere I can see it everyday and be reminded of it.
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The post on “Purple Wedding Gowns” has been quite popular and so I decided to do another post on other color wedding gowns.

I did a random search on “Champagne Color Wedding Gowns” and seemed like it is very hard to find.

All along I thought that champagne is quite a common color in the wedding, especially it goes well with champagne-colored roses.

I went to Yahoo to do a search and I have difficulty looking for images of such wedding gowns.

However from Google search, I manage to find more images.

Here are what I have found:

from organzabridal.co.uk

from goodorient.com

Who do you ask when you need a solution to your wedding problem?

Again, there are many aspects of the wedding.

There are problems related to relationship, families, finances and so on.

1. Relationship problems:
Do you ask someone with a healthy relationship or someone with a screwed up relationship?

Do you ask someone who has been married a few times or who is doing whatever it takes to solidify and maintain her marriage?

Do you ask someone who has not even gone through any relationship at all?

Actually it all depends on the mindset you have at that point in time.

I know it is very painful to be experiencing relationship problems especially some are on the verge of break-ups. Others may be confused of where to go on from there.

If you ask friends, most will say “It is fine and there is nothing to worry.”

You may end up felling unheard and more traumatised and tired, physically and mentally.

If you are facing such problems, there are local helplines which do not require you to divulge your names. The calls are confidential and there is always a professional helper or a trained worker to man the call.
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Do you know what you got married in the first place?

What is the purpose?

Is it to get married because your friends are doing so?

Or is it to protect her for eternality?

I know my reason of getting married.

Do you?

Are there times you just want to give up your relationship because of some misunderstandings?

Are there times you thought for a moment you married the wrong person because you can’t stand her weird habits?

Are there times that you just feel so hopeless and helpless because you are overwhelmed by the responsiblity of a spouse and a parent?

One of the first reasons for my marriage is because I love my wife and I know she is the one. The other is to protect and support her for eternality (so she never need to work again and can chase her own dream).

I need reasons to forge forward of her in times of difficulties, challenges and conflicts.

I need these reasons to forgive her and to support this family.

I need reasons to take care of her daily from making sure she has fruits to eat to ensuring that she has drunk enough water.

There are times when conflicts and arguments arise, I need these reasons just simply to forgive her.

There are times I took the beatings for her carelessness and I chose to forget simply because for these reasons.

9 months into marriage and I can honestly tell you that it is not easy.
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It was a tough decision to visit my parents-in-law a moment ago.

My mother-in-law went shopping and I heaved a sigh of relief.

I’m scared. I’m terrified. I’m confused.

I have to admit. There is no point admiting everything is alright.

After wedding, the marriage life is not always smooth.

There will of course be laughter and happiness. And there are times sorrow and confusion just slap you in the face without warning.

It was not easy to face the music.

My father-in-law was at home. He looked tired and unwell.

The first statement from him was to call home more often.

And he mentioned that if mother-in-law becomes calmer (if only), the whole storm will subside.

You know there is a research done. The bravest man can forge forward and kill all the deadliest enemies. But there is one thing that he fears.
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