176 pages in all … 70 more pages to go since I started reading this book yesterday night when my eye was a little bit better. Still reddish though but the commitment to understand the opposite gender make me want to push on…

It has been very amazing why there is a saying “men are from mars; women from venus” which is actually saying we are from different parts of the world or simply saying we see our world totally differently.

From the book, I have read that when a female enters puberty period, she has to undergo the tormenting monthly period, a period of pain plus emotional turmoil within herself as her hormones level rise and fall…just in case, if you are a guy and don’t know what I am talking about…I’m talking about the menstrual cycle.

When we were younger, and boys being boys, we were ashamed or shy to talk about these taboo words…but now, it is different for me…

To understand my wife better, ask if I must…going into a lingerie shop with my wife if it provides her the companionship…going to a cosmetic and women’s clothhing shop, I heard, is still a challenge for some husbands who prefer to be security guards for that shop at that moment when their wives are inside…for me, I still go in…even though the shop is swarmed with ladies and I’m the only guy inside…a bit uncomfortable at first but gradually I get used to it….

Back to the unpredictable monthly period ladies have to go through,…Meaning there will be times ladies can be calm at certain part of the days but become totally depressed and snappy on the next day…all at the mercy of the hormones in their bodies…

The reason why I want to read this book is to understand my wife…Lately, I even bought a book about “mothering to have a baby”. Yes…I feel the responsibilty to learn more about my wife and how I could really take good care of our baby in time to come.

Among us when we were younger, there was a constant debate of why not girl serve the army and boys take over child-bearing responsibility so that boys can understand the pain and dedication that girl has to put in just for the child…

Could be quite an interesting exchange and maybe this can be a wake-up call for husbands or even boy friends to really understand the emotional swing of your female partners…

understand them…so the relationships can be a better one…

for those who want to read this book I am reading, you can check it out here. Get a copy for your boyfriend or husband so they can udnerstand you better…>.< The Female Brain

Marriage is a happy occasion…the wedding is moment-in-time when the couple sign on paper and commit to each other forever, be it in sickness or in health, in poorness or in prosperity…

a committment I must say, must not be broken…but when I looked around me, couples chose the easy way out handling their difference…seeking divorce as the only solution…and saying “it is for the good for the family…”

I’m not sure how many of you are from divorced families…or feel like you are from one…a family where mom and dad are always quarrelling and arguing seems to be the normal way and the only way they can communicate….and they threatened each other with the word “divorce”…

as a result, even before divorce really takes place…how many of us, the children in the families are affected? and how are we, the children, being affected? and how do we actually feel now when we play the unhappy images in our mind, hearing the commotion in this place we call home?

I have a dream…a dream when man and woman can sit down and talk….sort differences just like how mature and grown-up adults do…

I have a dream…one day…if it really happens, we won’t hear of the word “divorce” again and every child…including you and all the children around you…will never be short-changed of the chance to grow up under the caring wings of both mommy and daddy…

I have a dream…one day…all wedding couples…even before they got themselves into this comittment…to truly understand what they are in for…to love their spouses genuinely…with minimal expectation of getting any returns…

to truly empathise each other no matter what challenges and frustrations they are going through everyday…and to cry comfortably in front of each other…knowing that they have at least someone, who is so dear to them, continue to believe in them… and love them…as who they really are…and not trying to change them into someone who they are not…

“My Wedding Blog, as you would have noticed if you are following it from the day I started before my wedding till now after my wedding, has slowly evolved into a blog that provides tips not just on wedding preparation.

I hope to use this as a community project to spread useful relationship tips to couples….married or not…to truly love and respect each other….and to accept each other as who they really are…

If you are interested to leave a comment or take part in this project I’m in, feel free to leave comment or put a message in the chat box on the left side-bar…

Recently, I know I have not been posting regularly. Because I am reading this book on psychology to understand woman better and to understand the principles of holding a marriage strongly and intact.

After wedding, I have realised it is not so much about myself. It is all the time about us. I knew my wife has many dreams and goals plus not forgetting her challenges that she had daily.

Who can tell me that her day is smooth everyday? Not even mine.

I became her consultant in some way. More accurately, her pillar of strength…a pillar with listening ears and not being too fast to judge what she did or is doing is right or wrong…

I’m just there to listen and that’s all. And if she asks for suggestions to cope, I will clearly mentioned, “I’m just suggesting and I’m not her. Only she herself really understands the complete situation and only she knows what is best for her.”

In a way, I become her consultant…her humble consultant who, doesn’t tell her what to do, but to lead her to the solution she in fact already knew.

In addition, I’m also like a direction post, to direct her to figure out what her strengths are and how she can develope them and continue to grow and soar towards the sky.

I’m not saying I’m doing it very well, but I feel that is all I can do for her…that is to be her best support…someone who will continue to believe in her…always

From the singaporebrides.com forum, I have found three more links:

(Photos are linked from their websites.)

Wedding Photographer:
Nick Goh

Edmund Leong

Wedding Favors: TheSimpleFavor

Tea-ceremony was a quick one. It lasted only 15 – 25 minutes for so many relatives.

After which, I had to take off the hair pins of the bride’s hair and did it really very slowly so that my photographer could take good photos.

The bride now had to change into Chinese kua and we went back to her home.

At this point in time, a few friends of ours took our bridal attires to the hotel and helped us to check-in. Yeah! Almost half of the day had gone past and I could feel the tiredness slowly seeping through my bone…

Alright! Today was our happy day!!! Let’s move on to the other end of Singapore!!!