I attended a wedding at Sentosa Beaufort.

It was a wedding dinner and the ambience around the hotel was fantastic. Remember I am only mentioning only outside is fantastic and I will tell you why….soon

It was no doubt one of the very few hotels which can give you a nature view by the golf park and the sea. It was serene and tranquil.

The reception was enjoyable and pleasant.

Transport could be taken from Paragon in Orchard or from Vivocity. But the buses were only available every hourly.

The bus ride was smooth and fast and we reached the hotel from Paragon in about 20 minutes or so.

The scenic view outside the hotel raise my expectation of what would be happening inside the function room.

I was very disappointed. I thought my experience with my hotel was bad enough…

The romantic ambience was not there and the light were on to the brightest. Hey…we could all see the guests VERY clearly even though they were a few tables away.

The lights were like spotlights!

The service? I could only give a “below average”.

Despite one waiter or waitress attending to two tables, the attitude of them were poor. They stood them and gave me the feeling we were invisible.

My aunty waved at this waitress about 8 times before she could see us. She was facing us and so I believed she was day-dreaming.

Normally, the waiters will be kind enough to say “excuse me” if they need more space beside you to reach to serve from the dish in the center of the table.
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I’m very excited and thrilled to share this news with you.

Because of your support, the number of readers have hit above 300 on Saturday, 31/3.

The other reason for the increase in traffic is because I got this software to help me.

Traffic for this week

Readers from different countries and they are reading my blog…wow!!!

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Wedding day was meant to be the happiest day in a person’s life…

But sometimes, too much practices and concerns can tear this wedding day into shreds…making us both Happy & Sad 😕

I’m talking about family beliefs and practices…

Different cultures have different practices…

Some dialect groups aren’t even sure of what they have to do and they hear from here and there and came up with thier own practices which they deemed as “100% real and guaranteed and MUST DO”

I had this experience from my mother-in-law that she mentioned we must not have sliding doors for our cloth cabinets because it will block out good luck. We must have have doors that pivot at the edge, just like older days.

There is another more interesting one that we must not have the cushion placed at the end of the bed or we will “quarrel very often”.

My reaction…”Huh? :?”

Many times, we have to say “yes” to our parents and meanwhile. move ahead with our own plans.

In this new generation, there many many tradition wedding practices that are long forgotten. However, some families still practise that.

For example, for Teochew, the groom, being the younger one to get married, must together with the bride, walked under the elder brother’s trousers before they enter the house.

As times passed, we, the post-war babies, distorted and twsited the practices to something more fun and more to our taste.

Traditionally, the friends have to disturb the wedding couple in their room because it was believed that there are demons and evils inside and so they must be scared away by the loud noises.

Now, friends disturb the wedding couple because it was fun!!!

I remembered while planning our wedding, we have different inputs here and there from different aunties, grandparents and even our own parents.

And, all these deafening noises, which are supposed to be for “our own good”, turned out to be very stressful for the couple. The worse things is that the people who gave these inputs are not sensitive enough to notice.

So there are alot of times, we have to cover both our ears..and maybe eyes…and remind that we have to plan our life…we are growing up…and we got to take control of our own lives…

Sad to say, not many people have the luxury to do the same thing like me.

Some parents threatened to sever the ties if their children don’t follow the practices. Others curse and swear at their own children plus the spouse-to-be…
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Just watched the movie “Meet The Robinsons” which depicts a story of an orphan boy who eventually found acceptance in a family…

Talking about family, family is really important to wedding-planning…not just to show up for the actual day but also to provide support and resources during the journey of planning of the wedding…

I had lots of help from my family and relatives…

My relative who owned a printing firm provided free printing of my wedding card inserts…other relatives provide me 6 cars on the actual day plus when I deliver the wedding invitation cards…

some other relatives even provided the love and care when they realised that I’m super stressed up by the wedding…simple things like a word of concern or brewing of herbal tea for me to drink…

Not forgetting my friends, they are my helpers ranging from photographer to drivers to personal assistants and so on…

Last year was quite a lucky year for Chinese…and many of my friends who are of simliar age got married…about 10 of them in total…

Some were lucky to have support from friends and families…

Others were not so fortunate…I have a friend who is a foreigner did not have the luxury of having her family in Singapore to help her…she had to depend heavily on friends…

However, nothing beats the word of care and comfort from our very own parents, especially our mother…

My friend was at loss and felt torn when she was stressed up by her future mother-in-law at that time…Her mother-in-law was not understanding enough to stop adding stress and pressure onto her…

My friend got so stressed up that she purposely returned home just before midnight so that the mother-in-law had already slept…
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Wedding planning is a big project…a mega project, many times bigger than the multi-million project you have ever handled in your career…

Wedding planning can be such a large scale event that it may have suffocated many brides and grooms…physically, mentally, emotionally…and even in terms of their relationships

others take it much more easily and are not really bothered when they failed to get the hotels…the bridal studios or the gowns the bride wanted…they just take it easy…

though such way of coping can be healthy by not increasing unnecessary stress, it can be quite a disturbing scene to bride who will become doubtful of the committment from the groom…

There will also be cases when the groom had to go overseas to work and leave the entire planning to the bride…and only to blame her when things didn’t go the way he wants to be…

The abov scenarios can happened to anyone…not just the bride…situation can be caused by some insensitive brides too.

I remembered while I was planning my wedding, my wife was very busy with her new adjsutment to her career….and she really needed the space and time to get herself familiarise with her new environment…so I did some of the planning and execution initially…

Later, due to my coming exams for my second degree…my wife helped me alot by taking over the coordination and planning…

Wedding-planning became a partnership between us and we definitely learnt alot from there…

We learnt about prioritising and delegating the tasks based on our strengths…my wife is more vocal and she did all the calling…I did most of the planning and coordination and sourcing out for hotels for etc…

and what is really interesting, we partnered to squeeze the 2nd free helper’s room from the hotel…we didn’t really intend to get it…it is not a must….

but it turned out to be fun when I strategised how to go about “demanding” from the hotel what we want because “they have screwed up somewhere else“…it was really exciting to do something so dangerous together…

Planning wedding should be fun…no doubt it can be a roller-coaster ride with times the tram may even veered too far off the track…it should also be exciting…

PLUS what had been helpful for us is we live with the decision each other made and we didn’t question why or ask for more…we know we had done our best…
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