Wedding dance is rare in weddings. Beside really soothing and romantic wedding music being played in the background, you get to see the dance by the two main stars of that evening.

from djpartymusic.com

In Asia, there is seldom any dance. Guests sat in their seats all night, waiting to be served.

The guests hurried themselves to finish eating the food on their plates. The night seemed to pass by quickly and by the time even before dessert comes, many guests would have left.

Personally, I don’t really like to attend wedding dinner but I love to take photos of the wedding couples.

I love to capture every moment of their smile and laughter.

Beside this, I like nothing else about wedding dinner.

In a typical wedding, its highlight is the table-to-table toasting when bride and groom move from table to table to thank their guests for coming. Sometimes, they have table games such as forcing the groom to drink more liquor than he can hold or the bride has to pass an egg from the left trousers to the right of the groom.

Such games may create some momentary excitement to the wedding dinner.

The only very memorable wedding was the one that I attended on last Sunday. We were entertained by wedding singers.

Something different at least and for the guests to talk about even days after the wedding.

So far, I seldom saw any wedding dance except for the one that we had at my cousin’s wedding.
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Before you continue reading, have you seen this post on my cousin’s wedding day programme and another post on her solemnisation. If not, please do so that there will be a flow.

Back to this post, my cousin’s wedding dinner hosted 56 tables in total, each table taking 10 people.

It was a really big wedding event for her with so many guests turning up for her very special day.

The wedding programme always started off with 1st march-in to cut the wedding cake.

She had actually engaged wedding singers to provide entertainment for her guests.

It was a splendid surprise for all of us, including me as I had never attended a wedding dinner with singing sessions.
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I have just came back from a seminar.

The trainer shared about a research done in 1994 by a group of psychologists on 100 pairs of newly wed couples.

from no-problem-marriage-
counseling.com

Each pair had a private room each and they were told to behave normally. They were each observed for 10 minutes.

The psychologists had to finished a questionaire stating the number of priases and put-downs give to each other.

10 years later, the psychologists followed up with this group of couples.

To their suprise, 94% of the couples were either separated or divorced. The couples who experienced marital breakdown were those who gave more put downs than praises.

This research showed that praises are very important elements for a successful and happy marriage.

I feel all of us want to be praised. We want to be praised for the effort we have put in, no matter how insignificant they are.

from theonion.com

We all need praises. So do our spouses.

What you can do right now to improve your relationship:
1. When your husband grumbles about how tired he is after a day of hard work, praise him for the effort he has put in to work hard and provide for the family. And tell him that the family appreciates him alot.

2. When your wife cooks and it may not be that tasty, praise her for the time spent in cooking and in buying of the cooking ingredients.
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Sometimes, wedding preparation never reached their desired outcome.

from peterkuper.com

Some weddings had been postponed or even cancelled.

There are a few reasons I could think of:
– There is a change of heart
– The groom was not ready yet (Then why he popped the question then?)
– The bride was not ready yet.
– Other unpredictable reasons that you may think of

Wedding preparation is a big event that the couple look most forward to. Many didn’t sleep well due to the excitement and anxiety.

Me too, I didn’t sleep well every night before my wedding day.

Postponement or cancellation must be a really big blow to the bride or groom (depending what happened actually).

Hope is dashed and the dream of building a warm family is lost.

Who could really understand how a groom or bride feel?

I feel that couples had to really think and plan through if they want to get married.

There are many factors to look into:
– How ready are they ready to commit to each other?
– How prepared are they financially?
– How ready are they emotionally to start a family?
– What do they understand by putting each other before self?

I remembered I watched “Spiderman 3” and Spiderman wanted to marry his girlfriend, M.J. His granny asked him how ready is he.

His granny asked him if he is ready to put his wife before him.

What about you? How ready are you to put your spouse before yourself?

from artexpressed.com

“C are for The One you love… 🙂
O pportunities for true love,
M ay happen only once,
M aybe, not at all in this life !
I love thee…
T hough we may not be,
M ost compatible,
E motions draw us close…
N atural instincts and fate,
T ie us together ?n? hopefully all our life…

HAPPY VALENTINE?S DAY !”

This poem is written by my very good friend, Phyllis.
She wrote this for her hubby on V day a couple of years ago.

*You can view more of our work at www.romance-fire.com/poems