For the past 15 years of my life, I have never really knew how my father felt when he was leaving this world.

It was not until I was told a moment ago that he died peacefully in his bed at the hospice at about 10 am.

In fact, there was a time he actually left this world and he was travelling on a path towards a door which was brightly lit.

He heard one of my cousins shouted for his name and that made him turned back.

When he woke up, he told my relatives crowding around his bed not to shout for his name. Because he won’t be able to leave this world peacefully and be reincarnated into the next life.

I’m not sure if you believe it or not. But I do.

At that time when my father died, I was only 14 years old.

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My mother single-handedly brought me up and I am really grateful. She is my mother and I’m ready to give up my life for her.

Yes, I’m raised up in a single-parent family. A family which displays the power and superiority of a woman’s strength.

I admire women who brought up their children (sometimes 10 of them in family) alone.

Women are the most outstanding among human kind.

Without women, there won’t be men. Without mothers, there won’t be fine men to rule the world.

I have shared in one of my wedding speeches that my life has been moulded by women, my aunties especially. I’m the only guy in my office. My best friends are ladies. I’m the only child but I have many supportive female friends who treat me like a sister.

My life is indeed indebted to women.
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Wedding is just a start for conflicts and disagreements to become the daily issues of couples.

In fact, some long term couples or even the newly-wed have already tasted what fire unresolved conflicts can bring.

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I was at the bus stop waiting for a bus one day when I heard a young couple quarreling. I happened to overhear that the issues were not spending enough time with her.

The first thing the guy did was to blame the girl too for not having enough time at all due to her work. The girl rebuked with a continuous ammo of her past unpleasant experiences that she had spending time all alone.

Blames on each other got torpedoed at each other and they forgot they were in the public.

A lot of times happily married couples resolved their conflicts differently. They use humors and give way to the other party.

Giving way is not equal to confessing that you are in the wrong. It only means respect to the relationship.

Many times my friends who were in relationship asked me if we ever argued or quarreled.
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“My Wedding Blog” has come far. It is still a relatively young blog.

I started it in August 2006 as a medium for self-expression of inner thoughts and feelings and at the same time, I wanted to blog every wedding-planning details, no matter sad or happy.

I have done 6 revamps to my site for the past 9 months and for those of you who have been with me all these whiles knew how much pain I had gone through to get this wedding blog up.

My Wedding Blog almost died in March 07 when I wanted to give up as I found myself not having enough time spent with my family.

Many readers like you emailed me to hang on there and retain “My Wedding Blog” because they were still planning their weddings half-way. Others felt that the blog must stay so future brides can benefit.

I think the main motivation for me to continue blogging is so that brides as well as grooms can benefit.

My Wedding Blog is different and unqiue in the sense that it tells about the “ugly” side of wedding.

Unlike commercial wedding websites which only show-case the luxurious and lavish wedding lifetyle, My Wedding Blog also shares about the emotional turmoils any wedding couple can and will most likely go through from before marriage to after.

Marriage life is never always a bed of roses. There are thorns underneath too.

Now, My Wedding Blog has about 300 to 400 unique readers each day, about 200 subscribers and 41 Community Members. The numbers are still growing as you are reading.

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I will continue to do my best to add value to my readers. I promise.

Wedding-planning, despite being the most joyous event of the lifetime, could be very stressful.

In addition to this stress, there could be work stress, family stress and many more.

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I remembered I was totally stressed out during my wedding planning period last year that I almost broke down. I’m not sure if I’m entering depression stage but this was real to me.

I know some wedding couples could be stressed out too and they are not aware of it. To add more impact, they give each other more stress, hoping that each other can understand them.

A fair amount of stress is important to ensure your wedding plan is according to what you have planned. Too much pressure may cause you to end up as an unhappy bride or groom or even to the extent of calling the wedding off.

One of my readers emailed me pleading for help. She felt alone because the groom was in overseas and not supportive. She felt that she was the one planning the wedding. Moreover, the in-laws were setting many unrealistic expectations such as “forcing” her to carry out in the exact manner they wanted.

There was no say in the bride at all and she felt like calling off the wedding.

This was not the only one such email I received. There were a few more like this. Some brides managed to cope better after that. Others cancelled their weddings.

So how did I cope with my stress while planning my wedding?
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If your hubby is earning enough to support both of you even if you are not working, I want to send you my congratulation.

Normally after a wedding, the savings of the newly-wed depletes (or even in deificit) so much that it may take a few years for them to recover.

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Traditionally, the role of a husband has always been the bread winner of the family. However, the role of a wife has evolved over the years as families nowadays can have two sources of income. One is from the the man, the other is from the woman.

The earning power of women have increased dramatically such that some women are earning as much as their husbands, if not more.

However, deep down inside, most women have the natural instinct of mothering a child still lie deeply in their subconscious.

Many women, if given a choice, will still choose taking care of their children full-time over keeping a job even if it is a highly-paid one.

Many times, such decision is not easy to make as there are other factors to be taken into consideration such as the earning power of the other significant half.

I remembered my mother wanted to quit her job soon after I was born so as to take care of me. She doesn’t believe in entrusting her own child into some domestic helper.

She rather trust herself.
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