Once after proposal, the preparation of your wedding begins. I remembered once after my own proposal, the first thing on our mind is to announce to our parents.

Announcing to our own parents is easier. The most difficult part for me is breaking the news to my mother-in-law.

from djdynamite.com

During the first visit to my in-law’s place, I brought beer and fruits, hoping that gifts can make the task seem less hard.

The beer was for the father and the fruits for the both.

Such happy news calls for celebration.

When I was about to tell my in-laws about our plans to get married, I was breaking cold sweats.

After our parents both know about our wedding plans, the next-to-do things on the list is to have a rough idea what your ideal wedding is. Plus, how much wedding budget you have.

There is a fine line between spending just what you think should be spent and over-spending.

A wedding preparation plan should be drawn out. Both of us got a scrap book as our wedding planing book.
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In Chinese Wedding, there are always reception tables for the guests to ask about their table which they will be sitting at.

In addition to that, this is a time when guests will give red packet or ang pow as a gift to the wedding couple.

There is money in the ang pow. If you are just a normal acquantaince or fellow colleague, the amount of money is about S$80 to S$100.

For very good friends, they may give about S$120 to S$150.

For relatives, they may give from S$200 to S$2000 depending on the closeness and relationship.

Some relatives may even give to S$10,000 to the wedding couple.

At the reception table, there is an ang pow box when guests can slot their red packets in.

There is always a close relative or family member who is incharge of the box as the amount of money in the box may build up to S$40,000 for that night.

I have heard of con man who posed as relatives and divert the attention of the person who is in charge of the box. The con man may lied that the groom told him to take over and he ran off once he got hold of the box.

You may choose to do-it-yourself or buy a ready-made one.

How you can do a ang pow box for your wedding?

You need to get a box for A4 papers, a piece of wrapping paper, glue and a decor.

For the decor, you may be able to get wedding bears, dolls, angels or any item you think is suitable.

Here are some ang pow box designs you may want to follow:

from singaporebrides.com

from blissloft.com

Marriage is a funny thing. We look forward to it so much and spend our entire savings on having the best wedding we can have.

And yet, newly-wed or long-term married couples do quarrel and have conflicts every now and then.

from poster.net

Likewise, courtship experience such patterns.

When you see the girl of your dream, you are determined to have her as your stead. And once you got her, maintaining the relationship requires more effort and hard work.

Moving from a stead-status to a wife-status becomes a partnership.

Similarly for marriage, it requires a life-time of commitment, perserverance, understanding and many more factors to build a strong foundation.

Planning wedding is easy. The tasks are simple. If some of you may find wedding-planning overwhelming, a hundred more times load and stress await you in marriage life.

I was talking to my female friend who had a tiff or two with her boyfriend once in a while. It is normal for many relationship. Even the best of friends do have disagreements once in a while.

They may be in the form of short spat, all-out shouting matches or stony silence.
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Now is 12.25am and I have just returned from the hospital. This could be a heavy post, a very heavy one indeed.

My grandma had suffered a stroke and it was out of sudden. In fact, I’m not really what I meant by “sudden”.

from yenra.net

Does it mean that it is sudden to the family members or the development to a full-blown stroke is sudden?

Neither can she open her eyes nor move her limps. Her eyes were totally shut. As she struggled for words or even make a sound, her saliva slipped from the corner of her lips.

I held onto her hands and massaged them, only to realise the grip was so strong that I have to use some force to pry her fingers open in order to release my fingers from hers.

I believe the development of her condition was gradual.

She was still well on last Sunday when she attended my cousin’s wedding.

News came out of sudden and I’m not even prepared, not even now.

Ageing is part of life. Death comes together as a package. Some of the deaths came sudden, others came expected.

Actually right now, my mind is confused. And I have no idea what to blog about. I just want to use this post to express my feelings and thoughts.
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Diamond wedding bands are beautiful jewellery that symbolize integrity and love between husband and wife in their lifetime journey together. They also symbolize fidelity and commitment and wedding bands have evolved to one of the must-have items in the wedding shopping list.

For middle income consumers like myself, cost is one of the determining factors for the type of wedding bands I purchase. Reason being, most of our savings has been deployed to paying for the wedding dinner, bridal package and honeymoon.

from abazias.com

During my very first visit to the jewellery shop, I was absolutely clueless of what to look for when choosing and buying wedding bands.

After visiting 5 jewellery shops within 2 hours, I realized the sales person always ask ? what our budget was and if we preferred yellow gold, white gold, platinum or a mixture of either gold with platinum or otherwise. Our answers to these questions would determine the type of wedding bands they showed us.

At present, it seemed that yellow gold has lost its popularity, in its? place, white gold and platinum are the preferred choices in today?s modern world. One of the reasons why platinum is favoured could be that platinum is harder than gold and is scratch-free.

If you shop long and hard enough, you may even come across some shops that offer life-time guarantee and allow for free exchange of bands for another new piece of the same price in the future. Of course, it may not necessarily be of the same design.

from abazias.com

Personally, I feel there are a few factors that we men look out for in wedding bands:

The diamond wedding bands must be within our budget. We do not wish to over blow our budget just because of a moment of impulse.

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