I found this paragraph while surfing the web and it somehow reminds me it relates to a couple.
“Change is a natural process. We change as we learn and grow. We change as we make new decisions. We also find that we are required to change as our situations and relationships change. Sometimes we hope others will change in ways we wish or expect and are disappointed when they don?t. The need to adapt to changing circumstances can sometimes leave us feeling helpless, powerless, afraid, hurt or angry.”
How does it relate? It is up to how you infer. 😉
Posted in Uncategorized on Friday, August 11th, 2006 | No Comments
Marriage includes four, not two. Recently I have read this book titled “Unlocking the secrets of your childhood memories”. This book talks about how we as adult still behave as child most of the times. There is nothing wrong with this because everyone is doing it. It is just that whether they are aware of it.?
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As the title suggests, we date the adult who is always on the best behavior. When couples got married, most married with high expectations that may tumble down fast. Some expectations can be unrealistic like must spend all his/ her time with me, must be able to read my mind, must know what the other spouse is thinking, must tell me “I love you” everyday (if not may think the spouse doesn’t care for the other anymore). and the list goes on.
Many times, while we were growing up as a child into adult, we may have more of certain things and may lack other things. For example, the husband may come from a family that doesn’t openly show love such as hugging. However, for the wife, she grows up among family members who hugs each other as way of showing care and concern. After marriage, the wife will be expecting the husband to hug her all the time (and the husband may feel uncomfortable in the first place or he may assumes one or two hugs will suffice.) Then, the wife may get angry and the husband may feel akward. Then, they may end up quarreling over the number of hugs she deserves. Yes, this is the presenting issue. But they have not understood the underlying issue is the different environment both are brought up as a child.
For those of you who feel this is confusing, do be fair to yourself and allow yourself enough time to process and digest what you have read. I feel this book can help us understand many couples each other better. Hope this info helps!!!
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Posted in Uncategorized on Tuesday, August 8th, 2006 | 2 Comments
It is 12.30am and I manage to see my buddy, Steven online. Managed to get some of his recent wedding photos so that I can post it online. Steven and Eileen and my fiancee and I used to be group project mates. In fact, we were in the same group for 2 years.???
We would like to thank them for inviting us to their wedding dinner and we were extremely delighted to see them get married. Once again, thank this couple for willing to allow me to post their wedding shots on my blog. Wow! extremely excited!!! Thanks alot!!!
An outdoor shot of the couple. Hmm..wondering where is the venue?
This is Eileen, in her evening gown during the indoor photo shoot.
A photo shot of the couples in traditional costumes is a must…
They certainly Look very loving!!!
Hmmm..I’m not sure if I did my best to give the photos the best description. I could have given better ones. Hmmm….time to buck up my English…But I’m sure the photos speak for themselves. And can give my readers who have yet go for their photo shoot, a clearer idea how it is like. It is going to be tiring too, and may numbed the mouth after smiling for the whole day…but it is certainly worth it…:D
Posted in Uncategorized on Monday, August 7th, 2006 | No Comments
Just to share with you what the bridal studios’ packages consist of, these are some scanned copies. Different contracts will differ; largely dependant on the bargaining power of the couples as well as flexibility of the sales person attending to the couples. (and also what is the power of the sales person (a normal sales coordinator vs a manager vs the boss)? Can he/ she make the decision to give you a better deal?)
Posted in Uncategorized on Sunday, August 6th, 2006 | 1 Comment
Wedding-planning schedule
Some of my readers ask me about the sequence of planning my wedding. Instead of replying each via email, I think it is better to share with all my readers. Different couples have different preference. So, it is really up to you to schedule what you need to do each month. Just make sure you have booked your wedding venue, arrange for photo shoot and look into renovation. These will be the more major ones which will take more time.
Below is a picture I found on the net. Quite interesting. I feel it would be better if they can walk hand in hand, supporting each other all the way. 😀
Bride drags the groom…”ouch”
Posted in Uncategorized on Saturday, August 5th, 2006 | 1 Comment
