“Dear Jhong Ren,

Im in big trouble dunno where to start wad to do..

as my bf keeps calculating hw much bth of us hav for the wedding and im
someone who r a perfectionist n wanted to do the best o to outshine
others but now having a headach..

hav already chosen the hotel that i wanted..
which is novotel clarke quay n b miting jaimie tml at 10am but do not
noe hw to do negoiating with her as i heard that shes a very frim lady n dun
likes to giv perks..

my wedding will be held like during april o may 2008..
my bf’s parents doesn;t seems to care o offer their help.. i feel tt im
alone doing all this. my bf is busy with his wrk n therefore we been
quarreling very frequently nowadaes.

i hav chosen Di Gio for bridal shops but they r rather expensive but i
really like their gowns n the photoshots..

looking for a bridal car separately s i like Cabiolet but heard from my
frnds tt if i wanted to rent this car then my bf would need to drive
but too bad he dun hav a licence..

alot of traditional things to prepare too like GUO DA LI.. wad is it
all about n where to get them is a headach n lots n lots of things..

wedding songs, animation, photographer on the actual dae, videographer,
n hw can i delicate things down to my helper to help mi n montage where to
get all this help o u hav anyone that u can recommend to mi to reduce all
this problem tt i have..

as i feel tt im alone doing all tis n im stress n i gotta take care of
my sick grandma n at the same time holding a full time job s a staff
nurse..

THANKS Jhong Ren..
if u can than juz help mi with the queries tt i hav can?

sincerely,
love Janet

thanks alot”
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Many times I have heard that the men just popped the question…”why not we get a house soon?”

To these guys, they are equivalent to “will you marry me?”

And many times, the ladies out there let them get away with it.

I’m talking about proposal here.

Be it Proposal to be to be his girlfriend or to be his wife…men got to understand more about ladies…

So far, there were some interesting experiences that my friends shared with me.

One lady friend of mine repeated the exact words his boyfriend used when he wanted her to his girlfriend…”You be my girlfriend, ok?” and it came out of sudden at a coffeeshop.

Coffeeshop?

For other lady friends, others just just go out too often enough such that the girl may assumed that they are dating.

For instance, this friend of mine went out twice a week with this guy to places they both liked.

After 6 months, the girl grew confused whether or not this guy was serious about her.
Then, this guy started to ask her abouot her opinion of another girl that he had crush on…

Then, one month later this guy held her hand ot of sudden and walked along, assuming nothing…or assuming that she had agreed to be his girlfriend…

Oh no?!!!

I think I shouldn’t shortchange the guys who did a proper proposal…I do have some S.N.A.G friends…(they stand for sensitive new age guys)

This guy friend of mine sang a song at a pub and proposed right afetr the song. Of course, he coordinated with the pub’s boss and went earlier to practice.

During the proposal, there were about 50 other guests around…wow!!!

Another friend of mine was deployed with his 8 brothers to Changi beach to use sprinklers to creat firework effects and they were arranged in the shape of a heart…

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I got an email enquiry on this:
“Hi JR, I’m getting married in 3 months, I have difficulty coordinating my time, too busy.”

It seemed to me that there is alot to be done about time management.

Many times, the bride or groom’s names filled in the “who” column and that is why they are completely drained even if their wedding is a few months away.

I can also empathise that the bride and groom could be really busy with their work, especially when their wedding could be just before the busiest period of the year.

Many times, I asked how did these people managed it. Thye just replied that they won’t care so much and applied leave to plan thier biggest project of their lifetime.

I know you may asking “what will their employers or supervisors think?” These ladies just say “Can’t be bothered.”

As for me, I was doing my part-time Graduate Diploma in NUS, working and planning my wedding. I almost went crazy last year…so much frustration and fatigue…

My wife at that time was very busy too with work.

I believe that what pulled us through was how we compliment each other, how we support each other and how we understand each other.

She was very busy too and I did most of the reasearch of hotels and bridal studios.

She helped out by looking for our photographers.

I did the first contact with the hotels and the bridal studios.

She found out more about where to purchase wedding stuffs and note down everything in her big scrapbook cum diary.

When I had to sit for my exam (5 days just before my wedding), she took over all the follow-ups and left me to study for my exam peacefully.

We had times of scuffles when we felt not supported enough. But we settled the misunderstanding on the very same day and move on the next day.

I think this made the difference: how couples settle their differences?
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I’m returning my friend a favor as she had given me S$100 Fullerton Hotel Food Voucher last year as my wedding present.

My friend has recently launched her book titled “The 69 Love Notes” and she is a specialist in Love & Marriage.

You can read more about her book launch at www.kloudiia.com

Do you know that I have a “Resource Page” about Beauty Tips for Brides & Bridesmaids?

You can click here to find out more…