I got an email enquiry on this:
“Hi JR, I’m getting married in 3 months, I have difficulty coordinating my time, too busy.”
It seemed to me that there is alot to be done about time management.
Wedding planning is a big project. Just like any project, there is a need to have a diary to jot down the things to be done and the dateline. PLUS who is to do it.
Many times, the bride or groom’s names filled in the “who” column and that is why they are completely drained even if their wedding is a few months away.
I can also empathise that the bride and groom could be really busy with their work, especially when their wedding could be just before the busiest period of the year.
Many times, I asked how did these people managed it. Thye just replied that they won’t care so much and applied leave to plan thier biggest project of their lifetime.
I know you may asking “what will their employers or supervisors think?” These ladies just say “Can’t be bothered.”
As for me, I was doing my part-time Graduate Diploma in NUS, working and planning my wedding. I almost went crazy last year…so much frustration and fatigue…
My wife at that time was very busy too with work.
I believe that what pulled us through was how we compliment each other, how we support each other and how we understand each other.
She was very busy too and I did most of the reasearch of hotels and bridal studios.
She helped out by looking for our photographers.
I did the first contact with the hotels and the bridal studios.
She found out more about where to purchase wedding stuffs and note down everything in her big scrapbook cum diary.
When I had to sit for my exam (5 days just before my wedding), she took over all the follow-ups and left me to study for my exam peacefully.
We had times of scuffles when we felt not supported enough. But we settled the misunderstanding on the very same day and move on the next day.
I think this made the difference: how couples settle their differences?
Do they go for shouting matches or do they settle it or even give in to the other party?
Remember giving in doesn’t mean the partner is weak; it means the partner treasures the relationship and won’t it to be affected because of a minor setback.
To this reader who send in this enquiry, 3 months is a long time and many things can still be completed.
I suggest you do a checklist of what are the things that had yet to be done. Delegate them if possible. Of course, discuss with your partner to see how things can be sorted out.
Remember, your partner could have better ideas and most importantly, it is the process that both of you go through that makes your relationship stronger and this wedding planning process a memorable one.
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