Wedding planning takes up only one year of our time. Maybe some of us take up another two to three years for honeymoon and maybe spend these times rearing puppies rather than having babies.

I know of a friend who wants their honeymoon period to be at least five years. One is abroad and the other one is in Singapore.

They still want to feel single in the sense and enjoy life with each other at times. The one in Singapore still goes clubbing with friends once in a while.

Who says you can’t enjoy singlehood after married? My friend is doing it.

My cousin just had her baby and now the honeymoon period had disappeared.

No more honeymoon period for them. No more.

The focus is on the baby, my cute nephew.
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I have created a FREE Your Wedding Planning Checklist and

these are the contents:

1. Your countdown list
2. Your wedding budget planner list
3. Your wedding photo-taking list
4. Your wedding helpers contact list
5. Your guests contact list
6. Your banquet seating planner list
7. Your wedding speech
8. Your music song list

Your Wedding Planning to-do list

Planning wedding can lead to cancellation, break up or even suicide. Sounds scary isn’t it?

Why is it that the supposedly happiest moment of our times can turn out to be in this way?

Actually, many things can happen during the planning process.

When bride and groom are put on the firing line which makes or even forces them to commit to each other, we called it putting them out of their comfort zone.

Being out of the comfort zone makes people feel uncomfortable. It challenges their capabilities, beliefs and level of commitment.

If a guy says he is committed to the bride, does he just say it because he wants her to accept the wedding ring or does he say it because he truly means it?

If a bride says that she believes in the groom and will go through good or bad times, is she just repeating what the minister is saying or is she ready to swim through the deepest ocean with him?
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I know many of my married friends have never done houseworks in their lives.

Before their weddings, most have domestic helpers at home to do their houseworks for them from folding their clothes to picking up their shoes which were strewn around the house when they got home.

After married, what will happen to the newly-married when both of them do not do any housework in the past?

What will happen to their kids?

I remembered one of my female friends who told me that her mom’s cooking was one of the worst in the world. She doesn’t even know how to light the stove.

These poor children were so deprived of their mothers’ cooking. They have everything in the world but they had never tasted what home-cooked food is like.

That is pathetic, isn’t it?

So, I urged that newly-married couples must do the housework and not outsource it in any way from engaging their mothers’ maids to clean up their house once a week or eating outside food for 365 days in a year.

I know doing housework may not seem to be part of the wedding contract. But welcome to the reality. You are going to move into your new house and there bound to be housework to be done because it is a house unless the house can work by itself and it is not mostly to be.

So, wedding couples, after their weddings, really have no choice but to do their houseworks, whether they like it or not.

So here are 37 reasons to help you justify why housework must be done:
1. Increase sense of ownership of the house
2. No one, except yourself, knows what can be thrown or not
3. Up-keeping of hygiene
4. Do you want to have cockraoches as pets? If not, you know what you need to do.
5. Bonding between husbands and wives
6. Learning to delegate tasks
7. Practice assigning responsibilty e.g. wife cooks and husband washes the dishes
8. Something to look forward to at the end of the week
9. Exercising time
10. Can help to reduce your tummy and it is FREE!!!
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I was listening to class 95FM and the DJ mentioned that a study has been done recently showing that finance and social are the top 2 stressors for a marriage.

This reminded me of what happened yesterday over dinner with my relatives. One of my cousins wanted to go overseas for holiday. In the past, when I was her age (about 17), I would wonder why it was so difficult to ask for an oversea trip.

My parent always mentioned that just work hard so that I could pay for the trip myself.

Now as a husband, I understood that there is more than the working hard.

It involves financially savvy for the family.

Let’s say you bring home $2,000 per month. Your wife takes about $700 for the household expenditure including marketing, buying household items like detergents and washing powder.
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