There are many reasons for divorce and many times most cases can be salvage.

I am not here to teach you how to argue and win every time.

One can never win every time. And sometimes giving way to each other also means you have won.

How often do you argue with your spouse or partner?

What do you normally argue about?

Sometimes, the roots to these are from very minor stuff like different habits.

You want a good example?
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It was my breaking of record.

Have you ever stayed in your wife’s office till 4am?

I just did a few days ago.

It was initially madness as it was my first time doing that.

However, when I come to think about it, it was a good chance for me to observe for myself why she is so busy all the time.

I think it was like those school days when you get to visit your parents’ offices and you awed in amazement.

And after that day, you got to understand your parents a little bit better.

If your wife is busy all the time, you may want to meet her for dinner and pop by her office after that.

I know it is not easy.
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Many of us thought that having a wedding is a great joy.

Yes, it is. It is a bliss.

And at the same time, many of us forget that it comes together as a package.

You know it is like a big project and your fiance is your partner.

Have you taken part in any project at all?

Does everything go smoothly?

Or sometimes you feel like strangling your partner who you see as uncooperative or want to “eat snake” (meaning laze around and refuse to help)?

It is not easy.
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I recently text a reader of mine who I treated as a friend. Her wedding plan didn’t turn out as well as expected and I was worried for her.

Her wedding was called off.

She replied she was doing fine and moving on in her life.

That is the spirit!

I couldn’t tell her “I understand how I feel.”

I never will. Neither will you.

How will we understand what someone has gone through?

I don’t think I ever will.

Looking at the brighter perspective, it may be better for some of us to relook at what we actually want for our marriage.

It is also a good time to review if he is someone who we want to live with for the rest of our lives.

I was reading this marriage guide book for newly-wed couples this afternoon.

I am not sure how much you will agree.
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Marriage issues arise from different areas, mostly from some minor misunderstanding and miscommunication.

A lot of time these issues can be resolved when they are in their infancy stage. However, many couples choose to let them pass, still remember them and let them erupt over time.

Let me give an example. Let’s say a couple quarrels, what do they normally quarrel about.

And during their quarreling, do you realise most of the times they will bring out some past matters to reinforce their point of view.

Meaning to say to justify that they are “right” and their partners are “wrong”.

In fact, do we really know who is right or wrong?

And when couples do not know how to handle such conflicts properly, alot of times this marks the end of a relationship and couples choose to go their separate ways.

This pattern of conflict management is repeated in their next relationship and they cope in the same way, meaning they go their separate ways again.
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Having conflicts are natural. It is healthy to have conflicts.

“What? Are you nuts?”

Looking back at my fist 9 months of marriage life, it has not been easy.

I’m not saying that we are in crisis or any similar form. Thank goodness we are not.

While looking at the days we have walked through together and effort we have put in, I could say we can score about 6 upon 10. (Still lots of room for improvement, you know.)

What we have done so far:

1. A gentle stroll round our house

I remember that we made an effort to stroll around the estate every night without fail.

These are personal times we could catch up with each other.

There are so many things to talk about. I just don’t understand how come older couples find each other bored. Maybe they just don’t want to talk. Just maybe.

Every day there are so many things going on. I just can’t wait to tell my wife about it when I reach home.

However, I must confess that it is not easy to be consistent. There are times we are very busy or one of us is busy. There are times that we simply forgot or are not bothered about it at all.

We need each other to constantly remind us now and then.

2. Exercising regularly
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“Yes, I do!” replied the girlfriend after the boyfriend kneeled in the middle of a busy crowd and proposed to his future wife. (not bad for an Eiffel tower proposal too!)

Yes, I do see that she is in for a roller coaster ride of wedding planning physically, mentally and emotionally.

For those of you who are planning your wedding right now, you get what I meant.

A few of my friends are planning their wedding right now and I can see that they are at different phases.

I’m clueless of what to do!!!:

What comes after proposal? Definitely not sex.

It is the responsibility of commiting to the many tasks that are pouring onto you.

Are you prepared financially? Your wedding-planning is going to cut a big hole in your pocket and money is going to flow out like nobody’s business.

Do you know what to do next? How to look for your wedding venue? What about your wedding favors? Oh, I forget to tell you that you will be meeting some really nasty wedding service providers like the bridal studios staff who only provide the service to customers who spent alot.

My fiance has changed!:
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