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All men are such idiots.

They have always thought that to make their wives happy, they just need to splurge lavish gifts on their wives.

Is it really true?

I strongly disagree that marriage build on such foundation can last.

Most of the times, there is no need to give expensive gift to my wife (even though there are some special times we need to spend more).

I reallise that the most beautiful gifts are always the simple gift which I can do it yourself.

It can be done by you, siad by you, written by you.

What is the key?

It has to be from you and that is all it needs to make the gift special.

One of them is definitely writing relationship poems.

I am no writing person and I can’t compose poems.

In fact, I hate Literature during my secondary school days and I hate those times writing poems.

Now, somehow I feel guilty I should have mastered the art of poem composition well so that I can write lovely relationship poems for my wife.

But this is what I can do…
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I was looking at my own marriage and reflecting on where I want it to be in 5 years’ time.

How can I see the future? I must be insane.

If we can plan for our studies, career and holidays, why can’t we plan for our marriage.

Would I want my marriage to be just like anyone else?

Wife and husband work in the morning and they only get to see each other after their work.

Wife and husband deposit their young kids in child care centre and they miss a whole lot of their growing up.

Wife and husband are drained mentally and physically due to raising up of their kids.

And they feel strangled.

Is this what you want for your marriage life?
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I remember a friend told me that getting married is easy. But making your marriage works is even harder.

He is a proud father of 3 daughters, age 10, 12 and 16 and he has a lovely wife.

Many times, I am wondering how many children do we have in our new family.

Having planned our wedding and our nice honeymoon, we are now in debt. I think in Singapore, many couples are. Maybe 8 out of 10.

There are different types of debts, be it you loan your money from the bank or from your parents or from friends.

There are the lucky few who got their weddings fully sponsored by their parents.

Are they really lucky?
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Let me share with you a story.

“There is this guy who planned to have his wedding soon. But it is going to be a surprise for his girlfriend.

He has a job which offers not much for saving up. And he knows that if it carries on to be like this, his savings won’t be enough for his wedding.

It was not easy to save up for his wedding as you know, wedding is expensive. But this guy does not give up easily.

He plans his wedding at this date in his life time, so he makes it a point he will make sure it comes true.

He works very hard for 2 years, working in the morning in his full time job and having part-time which starts right after his work and it normally ends off at 11pm.

It was not easy and this tiredness and exhaustion carry on for 18 months.

It was not easy but the guy is committed to himself and his life and he has only a dream which is to have his wedding day as planned.”

Finally did the guy has his wedding? We shall find out.
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Marriage is a bliss. Everyone says that.

Commercials about weddings make them look so magical and care-free.

Weddings lead to a life of eternal happiness and romance.

Is it true for you?

For me, it is not true.

I am not saying I don’t like wedding. I love wedding and especially mine.

I love my wife too and everyday I told myself, “I can lose everything that I have but not her. I only have one her.”

Before my marriage, I was a carefree guy, in the sense that I can plan for my life and my finance.

But what happen after my wedding?
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One year after my wedding, I finally have time to meet up with some friends on Saturday night and it was a good catch up.

Two of us, including myself are married and we no doubt agree that our roles have been changing over time. And they still are.

Before marriage, we were bachelors always working for ourselves and we had the freedom to plan our daily schedule. We just have to work to bring in monthly income both for ourselves and our parents, at least for me.

I recalled while planning our wedding, it was not easy. I somehow felt the stretch in me, at least financially.

Finance was my biggest worry then and it still is.

Wedding took up most of my savings and drove my saving account to below zero mark. Luckily, my loving mother was helping me pay at least half of the bills and I still owe her the money.

After marriage, we have so much to plan for and these are the ones.
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My life at this moment, seemed to be going through a valley.

There are uphills and downhills. And there are 100 times more downhills than uphills.

Determined to do whatever it takes to provide a life slightly better for my wife and my mother, I have embarked on building my own business ever since last year 2006.

A year of blogging on wedding and 6 months of “wedding planning e-book” creation are certainly not easy to be jungled.

Yes, I have a full time job. And when I got home daily, I spent at least 6 hours on building my business.

So each day, I worked at least 18 hours.

It was not easy to move through the swamp of obstacles that have been laid in front of me.
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