Everyday, we learnt to give and take. Sometimes, she gives way to me. Sometimes, I give way to her. If none of us wants to, we sit together and come to a compromise.
Marital preparation course does teaches this, doesn’t it? We do actually practice it. Not a perfect score yet. I doubt we can get. But we will always try to improve ourselves and learn to properly communicate between us.
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In Singapore and much according to Chinese customs, the bride has to wear a Chinese traditional wedding “kua“. There will be 2 times that she will be wearing. One during the photoshoot and the other on the wedding day when the bride returns home from the groom’s house for the tea-serving ceremony.
My future mother-in-law knew how to see what is a good “kua”. She is very particular about the worksmanship and the design. Her mother (my fiancee’s grandma) used to make “kua” for a living when she was young.
My mother-in-law was very disappointed with Singapore’s bridal studio’s kua and she rated it as poor.
The kua that my fiancee got looked quite old as it had been worn by many wedding couples in the past. There were some small tears, but the staff reassured us it will be mended. She also said that the holes would be too small to be seen by the camera during the photoshoot. Is this statement supposed to make us feel safe?
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We, Chinese believe that red brings good luck. Red symbolises happiness. Traditionally, white is avoided. But in modern society, the bride wears a white gown and the groom wears a black suit. I get to have a tuxedo…>.< For guests, it is not advisable to wear black or dark color dress or suit to the wedding.
On that day of the wedding and at a pre-determined auspicious time, the groom will go to the bride’s house to fetch her. To gain access into the house, the groom has to give “laisee” (red packet money) to the bridesmaid or attendants “guarding” the door. Normally, these “sisters are made up of close friends of the bride and they will also help out in the bridal recpetion at night during the wedding dinner.
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Many friends have asked me about how to set up this Wedding blog of mine. Just for you, I have set up another blog that guides you step-by-step of how to set up a FREE blog and how you can add in other web site features.
Blog 1: How You can Set Up Your Own Blog in Just 1 hour
Meanwhile, to help the many parents out there who do face daily challenges of managing their children’s emotion and behaviours, I have set up another “Parenting” Blog thats shares simple tips that you can immediately use to understand your child better and communicate with them more effectively.
Blog 2: Understanding Children
If you find these 3 blogs useful, please send to your friends the web site addresses so that they can benefit as much as you had.
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The wedding in Hong Kong is quite different from that in Singapore. Though we are all Chinese, there tends to be differentiation in custom according to the dialect groups. Especially for Cantonese dialect groups, they are extremely particular about the wedding custom especially in choosing an auspicious date, time and hours.
When a couple has decided to settle down, the first thing they’ll do is to ask a professional fortune-teller, feng shui master, or Chinese almanac expert to select an auspicious wedding date. As a rule, Chinese do not schedule wedding on the seventh month of the Lunar Year - the month of the Ghost Festival. Likewise, any renovation of the house or the bedroom will not be done in this month.
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It was as if the proposal was done yesterday. 9 months plus had passed and we had been really busy preparing the necessary preparations for our wedding day. To summarise, we spent about a month to scout for the hotel, another month for the bridal studio.
In the midst of searching, we had to “update” our parents and convinced them that we had made the right choice. Choosing the hotel and the bridal studio were easy; convincing people took more time.
In June, we took the photoshots for our wedding. It was really early as we could have taken in September. We chose the photos in July, picked the design for our bedroom in August and bought our wedding bands in September.
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Yesterday, I received a call from my solemniser. Thank goodness…he had come back from oversea from his trip. I’m extremely delighted when I received his call.
I know there were a number of info you need before you start clicking into the ROM web site.
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